Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Argument with FIL

5 replies

PissedOffWithFIL · 31/12/2019 14:18

Really upset and not sure why I’m writing this but just need to vent I suppose.

Was at the in-laws for a few days, all going well but on the last day, just as we were about to leave fil made a nasty comment about a couple of weekends away the family (dh 2 siblings and their families) had for fil birthdays a few years ago and how shit ithey were. There was a comment about not everyone being there. We were all there the first year and it was only me that wasn’t there the second time, due to my dad dying, it being his first birthday since he’d died, and there was another family emergency I had to help out with. I also couldn’t deal with a big family celebration.

So I apologised to fil for grieving for my dad and helping another family member who desperately needed my help and left. Dh totally supports me and had a go at his dad, I sent his mum a text thanking her for having us but heard nothing from them since.

Not sure what’s going to happen now.

I loved my fil, we see things in a very different way but I loved him. Not sure how to get over this.

OP posts:
Aquamarine1029 · 31/12/2019 14:24

Your FIL was behaving like a spoilt brat. This is just me, but I would leave him to have his tantrum, and he certainly wouldn't be hearing from me anytime soon. What a prick.

PissedOffWithFIL · 31/12/2019 14:26

Dh did tell him he probably won’t see us for a while. He also told his mum that his dad needs to apologise.

OP posts:
Mintjulia · 31/12/2019 14:31

Your dh sounds lovely. Good choice Smile

SeaViewBliss · 31/12/2019 14:33

It sounds bizarre that he would bring it up now if it was a few years ago. How often do you see them? Has he mentioned it before?

I would leave him to stew. If he knows why you weren't there he is being totally unreasonable to be cross about it and even more so to bring it up now. I wonder what prompted it?

PissedOffWithFIL · 31/12/2019 14:34

We were talking about another weekend away for MIL birthday.

Yes dh is lovely 😊 although because he agrees with my I don’t feel like I can rant away!

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page