Starting 2020 divorced

[madcatladyforever]

is anyone else starting the new decade divorced and really happy about it .
I feel the last two decades were wasted on my ex and I have so much to look forward to now.
It feels like a brand new beginning.
I've got divorced, moved across the country to somewhere I've always wanted to live, bought a new house, got a new job and I feel like I've struck gold.
All that shit s behind me and this is a completely new start. Roll on 2020.

It was 2013 for me. Never looked back. Happier than I've ever been.

Well done. I’m not there yet but have my first solicitor’s appointment booked for the 2nd Jan. He doesn’t know yet.

@madcatladyforever, wish I was in your shoes. Hopefully I will be there in 2021. Can’t wait for the first half of 2020 to be over. All to come yet.

I've been separated 18months and divorce came through in December.

I've started to really focus on myself and progressing at work now I don't have all of that hanging over my head.

It's going to be a good year I hope.

I wish I was in your shoes too, I can see me happy single. And will never get married again it’s a prison having to live with someone I can’t stand , I don’t like, love or sleep with. Starting a new job in the new year will take I from there

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Congrats! Sounds wonderful. That was me 7 years ago, never looked back!

@cansmellfreedom

I used to dream about him just disappearing!

Initiating the divorce is the best thing I have done I am so much happier.

@whatnameshallitbethistime
Am happier when he’s not around.... will have to be very brave in the new year

Yep my divorce was made final 3 weeks ago
Been separated since 2016 and I have never been happier 😊

Separated 2 years ago exactly, and divorce will start next month, can’t wait.

2020 will be my year to shine.

And try OLD maybe! Although tbh I have found i really enjoy just being me and having no one to answer to or consult or anything!

The trouble with old will be all our exes will be on there, so I'm not doing that. I feel wobbly but going to focus on me and my dc

Mine won’t be, he met someone else after 6 months and moved her into the house (I moved out as I couldn’t stand being there after we separated) within weeks!

In those 6 months he was begging me daily to come back, and still occasional sends abusive messages (usually late night when clearly drunk) berating me for daring to leave him. She’s welcome to him!

I've written out my papers, found my marriage certificate and just need to post them off. Am looking forward to a better year as 2019 was pretty crap!

We agreed to separate just before Christmas. I feel lighter and more optimistic than I have in years. It’s been draining having to pretend everything is fine when it’s not. I didn’t realise how much. The next few months will be difficult though as we’ll have to live together until the house is sold.

Horrible horrendous Domestic Abuse and subsequent separation (Nov 2014) and divorce (July 2017). Two children involved, one with SN.

It has taken ages, but - you know what - I got through it, and feel happier and more settled now, than I ever though I would get to.

So definitely bring on the 2020s ... I am really looking forward to them 😎