Am I the only one who feels like this

[mumofbabyboy]

Currently have one little boy who’s going to be one this week! such a good child - sleeps eats plays. i am also 5 months pregnant with my next (also a boy) pregnancy has been amazing so far. (fingers crossed)

my husband seems to think he does one thing for the baby and he’s suddenly father of the year. he works for 5 hours in the evening and continues to stay up till 3am watching sport and playing games on his phone and not waking up until 11. it’s irritating me beyond belief. he’s like a big kid.

i’m passed the point of caring and telling him i need his help, i want us to spend time together 1:1 he doesn’t get it nor does he seem to care. i’m now at the point where i don’t even care i just want him away from me.

is he just a typical man?! am i expecting too much from him to listen and respond to my actual needs consistently. i feel so lonely and stuck. i want my family together and i am not leaving him but it this ever going to get better. i don’t know what to do

I was very lonely in my relationship, we had 2 DC.

Added in to this my ExP also used to constantly criticise, get very drunk and verbally abuse me.

You are definitely not the only one who feels like that.

It might be worth sitting down with him and trying to explain, in a non confrontational way, how you are feeling and what you would like from him. However, if he is zoned out with one baby in the house he is likely to retreat further once there are two. He might be wonderful once the boys are a bit older and he can engage more with them but looks like you have quite a long, lonely slog ahead doing the bulk of the childcare basically single handedly.

No, he's not a typical man. He sounds like a very immature one. And selfish. Don't accept it from him. How you deal with it depends on whether you want to work on things with him or if you're done.

I'm sorry you are being made to feel like this. You deserve better. Life's too short to waste it on useless people like this.

Depends what you mean by "normal".

It is distressingly common for men to opt out of family life, but that does not mean that it is OK, or acceptable or that you just have to put up with it.