Sad in a marriage

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I had quite a religious upbringing and married in my very early 20s, partly because I thought it was the only option. I'm now 30, and feel we have very little in common, he doesn't inspire me, he doesn't make me laugh etc. We aren't on the same wavelength. Is there anyone I can talk to to unpack all this? Maybe Relate?

He's a good person but I'm not sure I like him and I don't know if I was ever attracted to him. It wouldn't be possible to leave him (it would break his heart, and it would break my family, they are still very religious) but I feel if I don't talk about it I'll explode. I want to feel free.
Thank you.

Google local counsellors or use a counselling directory, I think any of them should be able to help as this is quite a general issue.

Relate I think specialise more in couples counselling, sounds like you'd want to go alone to figure things out yourself and work out whether you want to make any changes in your life.

I think you're right, I need to explore it on my own. Thank you

You could start by talking to your husband because I suspect he isn’t happy either. After that talk to your GP and they will recommend a counsellor. You cannot stay in an unhappy marriage for another 40 years simply because you want to make your family happy. Remember we are only here once, there are no second chances.

I would usually say talk to your DH first, but I. Your case I think it would be helpful for you to work out what and why you feel like you do. Otherwise you just may be confusing him although would be useful to know how he feels

Thank you everybody for your replies. It feels big to even say something I'm grateful for your responses. DH is aware I'm not happy but I'm not even sure what I'm saying. I will look in to counselling in the new year.