Need some advice - DH leaving

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DH told me that he is leaving and will let me know when he is ready. I need him to cover a couple of work night shifts for me in the next week as usual but after that I have a long holiday and can rearrange them. I would like him to leave now but am trying to resist screwing my much needed job up as I am still on probation till end of Jan.

Is it best to let him leave on his terms or kick him out? I don't want my DC saying I kicked him out and blame me for him leaving. Will it go against me WRT any legal stuff if I kick him out?

Do I let my DC see him leave? They will be hysterical if he does. What is the best way (if any) to handle this?

When my husband left, we sat down and agreed what date he'd be out by etc. In the end I moved out as it was impossible to live with him (alcoholic) and he over stayed by 2 weeks, but the agreement kind of worked. Otherwise, I don't know how long it would have gone on for.

I think you know what is right for you, you share a child so that in itself needs to be the primary focus. What do you want to achieve for the child? Sit down and explain? Show a United front? Ideally you want to tell the child where Daddy will be going and that they can visit?

I'd write down your agreement and both sign in compromising on what it is you both want and need. That way when it comes to legal stuff it shows you've been reasonable. It's very hard to take the emotions out of it. But you have to take a step back and think of the long term. It's not unreasonable to want to know a timeframe, you don't announce your leaving at new year then not leave until November - that would be unreasonable. So, maybe you agree end of jan - gives you enough time to sort out your job & keep your much needed holiday - because you need to be your best self and give yourself the best chance now. It's a difficult time in both of your lives.

If he fails to meet the target date - it only reflects badly on him.

Good luck.