Help me be strong tonight. Not letting him back.

[Strongerin2020]

We split and tried again.

I missed him.

It's been exactly the same

I feel alone. We do nothing. We go no where.
He drinks. Smokes weed.

Said at 3pm he was nipping out for an hour.

Get told by someone else at 8pm he's at his mates drinking.

He says he's coming home.

He's gone pub.

I've had enough.

I deserve better than this

He has his own place still but he won't go there.

I know he's gonna come here. Drunk. Banging on the door.

Please help me be strong.
I'm not letting him in.

I'm done.

2020 is my year. New life. New strength. New body.

A year for ME.

Maybe stick up notes that say "I deserve better".

Write a journal about the incidents just in case the rise tinted glasses get put back on.I know you like his family but don't be swayed by them as they have an invested interest in keeping you two together. Perhaps you are the person to keep him on the straight and narrow and if you are not there will it have to fall to someone else??

Lock the door and block his phone number.
Do you have a friend or sister that can come over for moral support??

My friend is here.

I dunno about the locks. It's housing association. I guess I'll have to ring them tomorrow?

Yes you should ring them now.

It's unlikely the housing association will change your locks for free: I think they'd consider it something you should pay for in this situation. But worth finding out probably. They might be cheaper than a locksmith.

Otherwise you can change the lock barrels yourself or handy friend/family member. You won't need the HA permission to do it.

He's still here.

DS1 took the dog out for a wee in the middle of the night and had no clue about this.
He didn't put the chain back on or leave the key in the lock.

So no head came home at 3.30am and just got in using his key.

He kicked off. Saying the usual shit.

I slept on the couch.

I've asked him quietly to go a few time and he said no. It's his home (no it's not.) and that we will talk later. I told him I don't want to

I can't do anything right now

I'm not having the kids witness. A massive argument

Fucking sick of this shit

Ring the police tonight and ask them to escort him and his belongings out of the premises. If it's your name on the tenancy, it's not his house - it's yours.

He will go insane

Also its NYE so I doubt they would show promptly

Call the police now.

Tell him he has the choice to either leave peacefully or you will call the police and have him removed.

I can't be bothered.

I'm going to sleep on the couch

I feel so much for u, call the police and try not to let him in next time he goes.
I was with my ex for 6years he was vile when drunk would end up in massive arguments and me kicking him out, if I refused to let him in my car used to get a battering of him! It took me 6years of the lies, drinking, the vile stuff he used to call me when drunk before I finally said enough is enough and ment it! We broke up in March and he still goes on about getting together to this day, please don't leave it 6years!! So much time lost.

OK, so you need a better plan. Don't engage with him tonight. Sleep on the sofa.

Organise changing the locks next week. Get it done while he's out. Does he work? If so, change the locks, pack up any of his stuff and take it round to his place while he's at work if you have a key.

Are the kids his?

He’s not listening to you. Send him a message telling him that the relationship is over and you want him to move out tomorrow. Mean it. Do you have a friend or relative who can support you?

You have to see it through or this will just go on and on.

Today is a great day to make changes for the better and start as you man to go on.