Unenthusiastic boyfriend!

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Me & my boyfriend are staying in this NYE and we did the same last year. My mum suggested for next year we get a big cottage for the family for a few days over NY as we never seem to have any plans. Just mentioned this to my boyfriend and his reply was ‘I’d rather not, we’d be knackered for work when we go back’ and I genuinely laughed out loud. It’s a year ahead and he’s already thinking about how tired he’s gonna be for work?!

Also we don’t go back till the bloody 4th!!! We’ve been together 5 years but the lack of enthusiasm is killing me off

NYs with the inlaws!

How utterly horrifying he's being diplomatic.

Is he generally unenthusiastic?

@RoxanneMonke I doubt it... he enjoys my family’s company more than I do!

@Beamur ish...! Unless it’s his idea

Maybe I’ll suggest a house full of his friends with lots of alcohol and see how enthusiastic he is then?

I'd be very unenthusiastic about sitting in a house with my parents on NYE, no thanks!!

NYE is overrated, it's just the end of the year. I always think, same shit different year. All that changes is the number by one.

Go without him? No law to say you have to be with your partner on NYE.

He doesn't want to spend it stuck in a house with your family and I can't say I blame him. It's a year away. If you're so keen go on your own.

I get what you're saying op. It's a bit uninspiring when someone shows zero enthusiasm for something that could be quite enjoyable. If he doesn't want to do that then fine but he could suggest an alternative or is he just one of these who prefers sitting on his bum getting old before his time? I had an ex like that and frankly he bored the life out of me.

@PhilCornwall1 good job I aren’t asking you to come then isn’t it? He gets on great with my family which isn’t the problem

@onanothertrain I will go without him obviously but we’re 300 miles away from both our parents so we’re just trying to make plans ASAP

Do you ever go out anywhere together ?

Cinema, walks, theatre, museums, music gigs, festivals, days at seaside, car boot sales, fairs, holidays, pub ?

Yes we do and he’s generally a really sociable person. We’ve just spent a week with both our parents over Christmas which was great and done lots together. We’d had a long day travelling yesterday so maybe why he was lacking enthusiasm. The way I’m feeling I don’t wanna leave my house again

Some people, me for one, just don't enjoy the new year's eve frenzy. I really don't enjoy the pressure to enjoy myself and after all the Xmas hoo ha I've had enough. I know I sound a bit of a misery but I'm really not. If he's sociable most of the time I'd give him a pass.

Do you tend to have very busy Christmases?

We do, and this year has been double busy. Both DH and I are burnt out and have cancelled our evening plans for NYE and instead opted for just a nice meal at a pub on NYD

If you have spent a week with family he may be peopled out. I’m a bit peopled out as I was away over xmas, now I’n back home me and my boyfriend are going to a NYE party, my son is only four so we’re coming home early. The thing I’m looking forward to the most is being at home with him and my son, I’d happily not go to the party at all to be honest.

I get on brilliantly with my in-laws but I really wouldn't fancy new years in a cottage with them.
I think he was being diplomatic