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Does this seem a bit weird on his part ?

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Phoenixxx · 29/12/2019 19:49

I've been speaking to him for about 5 days, and planned to meet up next week. Only send about 1-2 messages per day on average.

Anyway, I told him (and I had put on my profile) that I was very into running. He joked that he hated running and the extent of his was jogging to the takeaway once a month.

Now today he's suddenly announced that he's joined a running club for the new year and will start.

Seems a bit too coincidental ? Maybe i've inspired him, but the negative side of me is saying he's just trying to impress me and it's a bit desperate-sounding ?

If i'm being harsh feel free to tell me, i'm just on the lookout for ANY bad sign these days !

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Original poster
Phoenixxx · 29/12/2019 19:50

There were literally 2 days in between him saying he hates running and that hes joined a club.

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ohwheniknow · 29/12/2019 19:51

It is the time of year for people to take up fitness activities they have spent the rest of the year avoiding.

funnylittlefloozie · 29/12/2019 19:53

Hes trying to impress you. Take it at face value, and be pleased that at least he's trying to do something to win your approval. Its a nice act.

Skagen · 29/12/2019 19:53

Does it matter? I'd assume his initial comment was a joke tbh.

You've only been chatting for a few days, either ask him more about it or just wait until you meet him and get to know him a bit more.

CoffeeCoinneseur · 29/12/2019 19:54

New year new me and all that bullshit. It's that time of year. Everyone's joining running clubs, yoga classes, PT sessions.

I can't see anything to get excited or alarmed about.

lexiepuppy · 29/12/2019 19:54

Could be a red flag from a personality disordered type who is mirroring your behaviour.....
Or
He could be on a health kick and you have inspired him to go running 🏃‍♂️ further than the takeaway!

RUSU92 · 29/12/2019 19:56

I hate all forms of exercise (to the point that I put on my dating profile not to bother contacting me if you go to the gym Grin )

I also joined a running club last year, now a member of a gym (with my now DP who DID go to the gym but fulfilled all my other criteria, so I let him off!!)

People change, and hopefully meeting someone brings out the best in you. Give him a chance.

ElloBrian · 29/12/2019 19:58

I would just ignore it. You haven’t even met yet. Not worth wasting this brain power on. Surely there are other things you could think about?

Spied · 29/12/2019 20:02

Maybe a pal has roped him in to joining up.
Maybe you are not the centre of his universe.
He hasn't met you yet- he may not even like you.
Sure to you are reading to much into this.

Spied · 29/12/2019 20:02

Too

Original poster
Phoenixxx · 29/12/2019 20:06

I probably am reading too much into it ! Ive just become so wary of anyone from OLD and looking for any 'signs'. I will still meet him.

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Ullupullu · 29/12/2019 20:12

He is trying to impress you and hoping you'll have a shared hobby?

Original poster
Phoenixxx · 29/12/2019 20:16

I'm just put off by someone trying hard before we've even met.

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ElloBrian · 29/12/2019 20:21

But you don’t know that he is. It is not always about you.

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