Six months pregnant, been with my partner a year (it was unplanned but a welcome surprise and I can’t wait to be a mum). We broke up for two weeks during my pregnancy for mistakes on both sides. My mum now hates me partner. Fair enough. But she is constantly making horrible remarks about him and it makes me feel uncomfortable, and if I do defend him she’ll snap at me.
I earn more than him as he’s in his last year of uni (mature student) but still earns enough to contribute financially. But she will mock him being a student, make comments about me paying for things and if I say we have been out she’ll snap ‘Did he pay?’.
Other examples:
Sonographer accidentally put his name as a woman’s name on scan, my mum said it’s probably because he looks like a lesbian.
She has also said he looks like a lanky rat.
She has said she wishes he wasn’t my baby’s dad, that she hopes the baby is born black (my partner is white, basically saying she hopes it’s not his), that he stinks (he does not, he has great hygiene).
Today I ordered a pizza for my little siblings as I was visiting her (I have my own place) and the delivery guy had the same name as my DP. I joked it would be funny if it was my DP turning up to give me pizza; she said he can stay on the other side of the fence if it was.
We were then talking about pregnancy and I said I’d like to have another child in the future and she said ‘you’ll have to meet someone first’.
I can’t be bothered with these snotty remarks anymore but live close to my mum and I don’t have many friends and my sister lives there currently who I’m very close with.
What can I do without starting an argument?