Help!!!

[ahsan]

I got into a relationship with a guy I’m Muslim so can’t stay without marriage for long, did have sex before marriage which I felt guilty about but after a month I know it wasn’t long we got married islamically. He left me the next day but after two days found out I was pregnant. Told him and he avoided me. He did come around came to see me and I showed him the test and stuff. He then went came back after the first trimester for two days said he would stay look after me but walked out again. He’s on immigration bail. Have tried to talk to him but ignores my calls and is generally not interested only calls about the pregnancy. Feel used as I’m british and know he is only using this child to sort his papers. He has threatened to take the child from me and is sometimes nasty and blames me for everything when I call

Don't call him...!

Wow. Block him. What an arsehole. You owe him nothing.

Move and leave no forwarding address.

Agree with @category12

Honestly, do a bunk before the baby is born. (I assume when you specify it was an islamic marriage that it was not registered under UK law?)

Don't hang around to be treated like crap by this man, to be used for immigration purposes and to live under the threat of him taking the child. He'll ruin your life and your child's. Scarper.

Can’t move as got other kids going to school currently in the area.my eldest son has special needs and is currently receiving support. Wish I could move would feel better but can’t. I’m a single mother with three kids already guess I was easy prey. Don’t have much experience with relationships as I was married for 13 years and tried to find love and all after my ex divorced me and remarried but now in this mess

Category if this was my first child I would do it but it isn’t

YES it was Islamic marriage. Thanks everyone would have thought you all would have called me stupid was almost too afraid to come on Mumsnet

Perhaps speak to the Muslim Women's Helpline www.mwnhelpline.co.uk/ or Aanchal aanchal.org.uk/get-help/muslim-womens-advisory-council/ for advice and support.

I'd cut contact with him altogether and not name him on the birth certificate, then.

Could you move within the area? Ensure school knows not to disclose anything to him incase he calls as their “step dad”.

Might not be much but if he doesn’t know the area or locals it might be enough to keep him back long enough to give up or you to sort something more effective to keep you all away from him.

You're not stupid at all. You have been naive but certainly ,manipulated by someone who is simply using you. I think for him to remain here following his immigration hearing he will need to demonstrate a relationship with his child. Unfortunately he is going to use the courts and to use you and the child to establish his right to remain and force you to establish that relationship with the child. Once he's done this he'll disappear and you won't even get child maintenance.

Yellow paper what do you mean force me to establish the relationship with the child? I’m confused

Thanks everyone and category12 I’ll have a look into that.

Thanks category12 looks useful I’ll contact them