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Neglected cat by Dps dad

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User898988 · 29/12/2019 11:00

Hi,

My partner’s dad has been in a relationship with a woman for the last 4 years. The woman is disliked by all my DPs family members (him, his siblings, his grandma etc). The main reasons for this are because she causing horrific arguments when she doesn’t get what she wants. I have lost count of the amount of times they have split up and got back together and I think they are all sick of it. She doesn’t work and rents her home, whereas he has a good pension, savings and owns his own home so she has been trying to railroad him into marrying her and selling his house to buy one with her in joint names.
For the past year after a dreadful split last year things have quietened down and if they have been having arguments he has stopped talking about it.

Anyway, a cat a gorgeous and friendly cat became a stray on my DPs dad’s street and started coming to his house as his girlfriend would give it bits of food. Over time the cat has completely moved into the house, getting in and out whenever someone opens the door.
My DPs dad hates cats and always has, preferring to have birds in his garden. But his partner is an animal lover. So when I suggested taking it to the RSPCA for someone to adopt she prevented this. He’s gone along with it and allowed the cat to stay.

However, I am a cat lover and foster them for a charity with my partner. While being back over Christmas it became apparent this cat is rarely fed. Only every few days, if that. I find this very stressful. She has currently eaten once this past week when I fed her and now her food has run out. I have no idea when the dad will be buying more and how often this is happening.

It’s just really stressed me out and I feel utterly powerless to do anything about it.

OP posts:
category12 · 29/12/2019 11:15

Is the cat only living with them, or does it have other households it's visiting? Does the cat look thin/unhealthy?

Booboostwo · 29/12/2019 11:18

Are you sure the cat is a stray? Has she been checked for a microchip, have you asked the neighbors if they recognized her and have you looked in FB for local lost cat announcements? I don’t think you can do anything until you are sure she is a stray.

If she is a stray you need to talk with your dad who needs to act like an adult and either take full responsibility for the cat or take her to a rescue as a stray.

User898988 · 29/12/2019 11:36

Yes she is microchipped - have spoken with the owner who has not seen the cat now for years despite living on the same road and said the cat has chose to leave and said even she took her back the cat would leave again (the cat didn’t like the owner’s children and other pets).

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Shinesweetfreedom · 29/12/2019 11:40

Cats Protection never RSPCA for something like this.Is it being given annual injection flea treatment and insured for vet treatment.If not even being fed then that is bad.

LuckyShoe · 29/12/2019 12:01

I’d be more concerned that the cat’s actual owner knows where it is (on the same road for goodness sake) and is refusing to take responsibility for it. Even if that responsibility is just to make sure it’s rehomed with someone that will look after it. I suggest you put the ball back in their court.
Your DP’s Dad isn’t neglecting the cat- it’s not his. They are and have been doing for years apparently.

Snowyday1234 · 29/12/2019 12:22

Cats protection for this as someone else said
Could you take it to the local cats protection and they will look after it until it’s rehomed with someone who will love it
That’s definitely what I would do. At least ring them for advice for starters. They are excellent
I would definitely take it to them

Booboostwo · 29/12/2019 14:38

The owner needs to step up and take the cat to the CPL if they can’t cope.

Snowyday1234 · 29/12/2019 14:59

It doesn’t sound like the owner cares though so if it was me, I’d take it myself for the welfare of the poor cat. The owner won’t bother.

alexia84 · 29/12/2019 15:01

Call the RSPCA and tell them there is an unwanted cat being neglected

smartiecake · 29/12/2019 15:04

Can you take the cat? This would totally stress me out.

Is the girlfriend still living there? I would take the cat. Put it in a basket and take it home. Poor cat

Interestedwoman · 29/12/2019 15:24

RSPCA kill healthy animals, cat's protection don't as far as I know.

As a PP said, does it actually look thin? It probably has quite a few people it visits for food.

Snowyday1234 · 29/12/2019 15:41

Don’t use the rspca, use cats protection

Snowyday1234 · 29/12/2019 15:42

Or take the cat home with you as a PP said
The owner obviously doesn’t care

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