First meeting with online date

[notkeen111]

I know it isn’t a date as such - just a meeting to see if we want to go on a date or meet again.

I am nervous though - this is the first time I have done this. It’s almost two years since exh moved out, and I was with him for 22 years.

One of my questions - how do people greet each other and say goodbye? Is a handshake when meeting okay? If I don’t kiss (on the cheek) or hug goodbye will it be construed as lack of interest? I am quite shy.

Other than that, I am worried that the conversation will dry up or that we have no connection and the whole thing feels awkward. Or that I like him and he doesn’t like me. Or vice versa.

Any advice gratefully appreciated .

Well what do you feel comfortable with? Suggest you decide and take the lead. Easy to hold your hand out and if you want to give him a peck on the cheek when you leave then take the initiative.

Good luck with dipping your toe in the water after all this time. When are you meeting? Let us know how it goes

Should have added that we are meeting today .

Oh well good luck. If it doesn't feel right, then have the one drink with him and don't extend it. Suggest you are clear you don't see it going further.

If it seems like a possible, then you will know as you will probably sit talking for ages.

Just be safe and keep contact through the App or whatever you have used. Don't give your phone out yet

Sorry @Namechangednorth missed your post - thanks. Yes today.

I guess I am wondering if it is okay also not to do anything when you leave just kind of wave? Even if you do want to see them again but at this stage you would just be getting to know them.

Feel faintly pathetic for asking this.

Exh was my first and only partner so I have zero experience really.

Ooo how exciting! I use to just say hi at first and super casual and by the end if you feel you may meet him again you could either give a hug or peck on cheek whatever feels comfortable for you 😁 you’ll know within minutes if you think you may see him again. Don’t put any pressure on yourself just go & have a good time!

Yes it is fine. Just don't put yourself in a potion when you leave that he can make a move to hug you for example.

It sounds like you need to just take it carefully and grow your confidence. I'm not an online dating expert but reading here there are some weirdos so be mindful of your personal safety.

Oh..and hope it goes well. If it does, avoid the temptation to have sex too early. There seems to be loads on here, meet someone, first date, and after either first or second date they have sex and then don't see him for dust which hammers your confidence.

Position, not potion🤭

Oh and read the thread below "online dating- keep getting hurt"

That's how not to do it!

Thank you.

Am friendly but also shy and also left a marriage in which there had been zero affection for many years, so I feel positively Victorian. Lots of platonic dates with whoever I may end up dating (if it ever happens to me) would suit me fine .

I had zero expectation having met one previous person and knew immediately we did not click....second lady I met we did click. Had coffee and wondered the museum for ages. We held hands and parted with waves and a hug....just be you is my advice. Coffee and a chat and you will probably sense if there is connection or not....probably stating the obvious but make sure it is a busy public place. Not a bad idea to tell a friend where you will be. 99.9% of people are perfectly genuine but he safe and enjoy.....and keep us posted.

Good luck notkeen11, hope all goes well.
You will know what you are comfortable with when you meet.
Just be yourself and take care.

Just go with what feels right!
I was in a similar position to you, I went on a few dates and a couple were nice, one guy was lovely, we got on really well. And then we met. It was like going on a date with my brother. Zero attraction.

On my first date with my partner, at the end he went to give me a peck on the cheek (being a gentleman and all!) and I went straight for the lips. I was mortified, but then he kissed me back and it was the best kiss of my life.

@notkeen111 how did it go?!