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Found DH is on FB

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svenwhen · 29/12/2019 03:14

He had set up my new computer and had put himself as administrator as it was easier to set up he said and used his old email account to set it up . This account he hardly uses ,it's really just a backup account. while waiting for him I just scrolled down emails, there's not many, and there was one from 2017 a Facebook account being opened under a false name. No other emails from Facebook. He has always been a social media avoider and has no sm accounts or so he always had me believe.

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NeverGuessWho · 29/12/2019 03:18

That’s strange, Op. Did you have a conversation about it?
Does he know you saw it?
What did he say?
What did YOU say?

Mintjulia · 29/12/2019 03:19

I have a fb account under a false name. I don’t like the idea of fb harvesting my data but I use it occasionally to see things posted on our company page.
Your dh’s access may be similar. Nothing suspicious. After the Cambridge Analytica thing, plenty of people used pseudonyms.

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svenwhen · 29/12/2019 03:27

He doesn't know I saw the welcome email from FB. I didn't say it to him as he has form to lie about things, stupid silly things he'll lie about so I don't want to ask him.

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MyKingdomForBrie · 29/12/2019 03:28

Have you looked at the account?

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svenwhen · 29/12/2019 03:29

The email only says the first name he choose so I can't find him on FB

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svenwhen · 29/12/2019 03:30

Chose!

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Rtmhwales · 29/12/2019 03:31

If you type the email in Facebook searchbar does it come up?

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svenwhen · 29/12/2019 03:32

I'll try that now

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svenwhen · 29/12/2019 03:37

No, email in search bar didn't bring up anything.

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Bluerussian · 29/12/2019 03:39

I opened a fb account with a nickname, don't want people to 'find' me but keep in touch with a couple I know well and trust.

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svenwhen · 29/12/2019 03:46

Yes but why not tell me he has an account rather than pretending he doesn't and thinking they're all a waste of time.

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ToBreatheAgain · 29/12/2019 03:47

Maybe try his current email in the search bar. He might have changed it.

PhoneLock · 29/12/2019 03:47

My husband has a FB account under a fictitious name. He doesn't do social media and opened it so that he could anonymously see what Facebook is all about. Nothing sinister.

It's surprising how many friend requests he gets considering that he doesn't exist.

PhoneLock · 29/12/2019 03:50

Yes but why not tell me he has an account rather than pretending he doesn't and thinking they're all a waste of time.

Because he doesn't have an account. Like my husband, he probably created a fake profile, had a look around Facebook and decided that it was a waste of time.

namechange1041 · 29/12/2019 03:50

Hmm it does sound a bit suspicious to me but I don't know why he would do it? Is he talking to/meeting people on there? Just looking to see if he can find any old school friends etc? I wonder Hmm, hope you find out OP x

Bottler · 29/12/2019 03:53

That's weird. I get several emails suggesting friends to me etc. Anything in his spam/junk folder?

holidaylettie · 29/12/2019 03:57

I also have a fake FB so I can see work things sometimes and I would also say to anyone, including DH, that I don't have social media - I don't, it's only for looking, I never post etc. I don't know if I'd add that I have a fake one, DH would not be interested. I have a fake twitter as well, same thing, I sometimes have to look at work social media stuff. Never tweeted. Actually I think I did use it once to complain about a utility bill ha ha though DMs cos the daft company had no other way to get a hold of them.

So I don't think I would be too concerned. Obviously, if you can't get it out of your head you can check the browser on his computer, or you can carry on trying to find him. Was the first name used his own? Can you get back into the old email account? Asking him will make you look suspicious won't it?

Graphista · 29/12/2019 04:01

Some games and apps it's easier to access or download with a Facebook account he may have simply temporarily opened a page for something like this

AnyName1 · 29/12/2019 04:01

It's none of your business.

midsomermurderess · 29/12/2019 04:28

Sounds suspicious? What is it that is being suspected here? Really, Mumsnet is not your friend here. You'll get loads of batty cheerleaders trying to convince you of something sinister, for their own enjoyment. You are just a soap opera now.

PhoneLock · 29/12/2019 04:38

Sounds suspicious? What is it that is being suspected here? Really, Mumsnet is not your friend here. You'll get loads of batty cheerleaders trying to convince you of something sinister, for their own enjoyment. You are just a soap opera now.

Hear hear!

hm246 · 29/12/2019 05:46

It’s could be a scam email? Iv had a few similar from Fake FB, Netflix, amazon email addresses asking me to change the password or log in details ect. The emails all look real, they had a link on them to click on the complete the action required but I’m guessing would of sent to a page to steal the details.

JuniperBeer · 29/12/2019 06:05

So youve found ONE email. From 2017 right?

Facebook send emails about loads of stuff when you're a new member. So, find out if there are others. If not, just ask him?!

AllThatPalaver · 29/12/2019 06:22

I have a fake fb account my husband wouldn't know about, not under my name so not searchable. It's for my reptile groups and dog breed groups etc. It has no friends and I only use it to communicate within the groups. If I told him about it he'd not care less, would probably be confused as to why I suddenly announced its existence. I hate social media, facebook especially, but it's the only way to be involved with some interest groups.

I'd ask about it before assuming it's for purposes of infidelity etc.

GiveHerHellFromUs · 29/12/2019 06:23

He could have created an account to play Candy Crush or look up someone he was interviewing or something as simply boring as that. Just ask if you're that worried.