I think my boyfriend is really unfair in arguments and is unwilling to hear anything I have to say. His anger gets the better of him and he can see nothing but red, even at the smallest of things. For example, I spend a lot of time at his house and I fancied a night at home because we are going away for the next four days and I needed to get my life together. We woke up this morning and I was like I will leave at some point this afternoon. To add, he woke up and was being off with me (this happens on a regular occurrence, moods throughout the day and unpredictable), and anytime I asked him something he would give me a short blaze answer. He then remembered that it was his friend X was party this evening and called his friend who was arranging it for the details. They then asked if I was coming and he said probably not, she needs to be home. So I sat there thinking well he hasn't asked me if I wanted to come and I know I said I was, but thats because I didn't realise there was a plan. He carried on making arrangements and could tell I was being moody, but didn't ask me if everything was ok (where as when its the other way round I try and always make him feel better). After a few hours he was trying to be playful, so I said to him if you want it to just be a friends night I get that, but why not just say? You orbs don't want me there! And he replied by saying what are you talking about, you've always been invited and look I was speaking about it yesterday and you are on the list! I was like ok, but you still haven't invited me and I am not a mind reader, how was I to know. Then I was like you should have told me earlier because I could have gone home, got my stuff and come out. And then he just lost it, screaming at me, throwing stuff round his room. Saying this isn't a real problem and how I have no problems and XYZ in his life is a problem and I am the problem and then told me to get the f* out and I have ruined his party. This may seem like a pathetic example, but in no circumstance am I allowed to say how I feel about anything because its all stupid and I am an idiot and he has so much going on. All I wanted was a little bit of attention. On the day of my friend Christmas party he didn't speak to me all day and I tried to give him the example of how I dealt with him nicely and he finally came around. With this example he chucked things around, broke his heater. Being with someone with anger management is hard