ExH exactly who does he think he is

[beatendown01]

Named changed for my rant as ExH knows I am on here and don't want it associated with usual username.
8 years ago ExH has an affair, he left, introduced DC to OW 5 days after leaving house. OW is now partner. OW is an alcoholic and ExH at the least has a poor relationship with alcohol. 6 years ago ExH lost driving licence due to driving whilst under influence ( nearly 3 times over limit) with DC in car. There have been poor choices involving alcohol which have resulted in DC being unsafe and verbally abused. Contact is now limited due to my actions with support of SS. His DP's DC are now in care.
My DC is 15 and meets him for coffee, chats on the phone limited relationship.
I have a new DP he has no DC, he has a rather unusual career. As a result he is able to purchase a large home for us all without me having to sell my house. But as some house sales can be it has been not straight forward and throwing Christmas in amongst it has meant that the exchange/completion has been tricky. We were hoping both would happen on 23/12, then when that failed 27/12, but it now looks very favourable for Monday.
Tonight ExH has fired off a series of emails demanding to know when we are moving and ranting about how all of this is not good for DC. DC knows full details, is not stressed, but keen to be in their new home.
My rant he forgets that this is one minor blip in 6 years in which I have paid private school fees, holidays, all kinds of lessons - which have lead to DC obtaining a place on a top vocational training course post GCSEs for their chosen career. Whilst he has contributed £27 per month.
I have involved the police in the past, but his emails are clever and the police say well you have to have contact you have DC together. It is not just the tone -mansplainjng, but the volume they all arrived with in 4 minutes of each other tonight.

Thank you for listening DP has had to rush to care for an elderly family member who has become seriously ill tonight and they all arrived after he had left.

Either dont reply or send him 👍both will piss him off and neither is unreasonable

£27 a month! He's a douche bag and keep his nose right out of it.
Being over the limit and DC on the car for me would have ended contact until DC were old enough to make their own mind up.
Don't reply to the prick. Let him live his sad little life. Just goes to show the grass isn't always greener on the other side eh.

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Don’t reply! It’s not his business as long as your child is safe. It’s probably jealousy, moving house never goes smoothly, it’s nothing you’ve done so don’t give it any more thought. It’s not worth ruining your night over!
Good luck with the house move.

Why does he even know the details of the move? Who is feeding him this information of dates and rescheduled dates etc?

Ignore his email. It doesn’t need a response. You don’t gain anything by responding to
It.

Jealousy is a funny thing you don't owe him and explanation for anything he doesn't have a legal right to your home address

Just ignore him. He’s an idiot.

I'm sorry he is causing you a headache at what must already be a stressful time. I know this won't help with the emails he has already sent but when i split with my first husband I set up a separate email just.for him to use to contact me about arrangements for our kids, they would go to my brother who would proof read and forward to me if it was something i needed to know or reply to, if not he would just delete them, is that an option. Your Dc are 15 now so you are pretty much at the same point as me where i dont have to have any contact with the bitter twat anymore. Good luck with the move , enjoy your new home. It sounds like you have done a fantastic job with your ds.

£27 per month is not worthy of a response!

Thank you everyone. It is my DC who is telling him as I say they they talk on the phone and meet occasionally.
I realise it is alcohol fuelled jealousy and he is just lashing out at me.

I also would ignore.

How does that figure come out . My ex on benefits has to pay £7 a week?

How does that figure come out . My ex on benefits has to pay £7 a week?

Either on benefits himself or self employed and declaring nil income as they get the same rate ... mine was £6 something so figure sounds right

Ignore, ignore, ignore OP

@Starlight456 he is on benefits and it is £7 per week, but it is paid monthly. I think it slightly varies depending on whether there are 51 or 52 payments in a financial year last year it was £30 per month.
He had a highly paid sale job, which he lost when he lost his licence. He now hasn't worked for two years and is his DP's carer I believe.

Block his email and ignore.

My ex had a massive go at me for moving 40 minutes away from him. Despite the fact he already lived 40 minutes away😏 it was simply in the other direction! On google maps it was literally TO THE MINUTE the same driving time. Apparently this was totally unacceptable.

These men are hilarious, trying to flex their non existent muscles.

Just reply Okey Dokey.

Honestly, just ignore

And suggest to dc that they stuck to bland info about anything to do with your lives.

Your ex has no business at all commenting on how you live your lives.

He is jealous & trying to exert some control.

Just turn your email notifications off.

Email him some fabulous pictures of the new house when you are in snd thank him for his concern

Yup, lashing out. His life has gone to shit through his own poor choices and he’s insanely jealous and resentful that yours has flourished. It will needle him. He spotted a chink and means to use it to offload his frustration.

Don’t respond. If you must, reply, “I’m not obliged to provide you with those details. The move is being managed appropriately.”

You owe him no further detail than that.