AIBU?

[MissCEngland]

Hi everyone,

Just needed a little bit of advice as I have nobody to talk to! Due to work commitments, I did not see DP over Christmas. However, he is back now and I have planned days out for us over New Year before he has to leave again for work.
However, my family are VERY involved in my relationship, always have been. And they seem to be very annoyed at me planning time for us alone instead of being with them 24/7. I was told "it's up to you to make your decision" but I can tell they are not happy. I always try and please them but on this occasion is it unreasonable for me to spend time alone with DP and see my family at another time?

Thanks in advance xx

How old are you? I’d tell your parents to butt out!!

I’m 28, which I keep reminding them of! Thanks @Elmer83, sometimes I feel like I need someone to tell me it’s alright to do my own thing! I’m an only child, and parents very intrusive at times. I hate it and have spoken to them on many occasions, but it doesn’t work. Have learned to live with it, as has DP x

Have a lovely time with your DP and see your family another time. I'm assuming you just spent Christmas with them anyway?

@Pilot12 yeah, I spent all of Christmas with them and stayed with them. Will still see them on New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day, but will just be out for lunch and things which is causing offence :(

Spend time with your dp. Your family are being unreasonable.

If my dp worked away I would socialise with my family and friends while he is away, then him and his family and friends when he is home and occasionally my family. Yanbu.

@Windmillwhirl @LL83 thanks for replying. I will spend the time with my partner that I planned. We are staying with my family on New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day, but because we won’t be there all the time, it has caused an issue. Will just have to set my family straight though.

YANBU, stick to your guns with what you and DP want. If you change plans because of their behaviour they will continue to try and do this.

Don’t let them guilt trip you. You seem to be pulling yourself in all different directions to please them. Nip it in the bud now...don’t let them think this is normal behaviour.
Hope you and your DP have a lovely, stress and guilt free NYE xx

@Marshy86 thanks, you’re right. That’s probably why its gone on so long. Thanks for replying x

@Elmer83 yeah, I’m feeling pulled in too many ways and trying to please them is getting too much. Need to stand up to them more, because it’s not right. Thank you, have a lovely New Years! Xx