Flirting with trouble?

[Wibster1976]

For a while now, I have had a flirty friendship with a woman at the supermarket we both work at. She is married, so I have never taken it seriously. It's only been jokey banter, although I can tell she likes the attention. I recently found out though, that she did have an affair a couple of years ago, but is now back with her husband.

Should I now keep my distance & not be so friendly, or not let her past ruin our friendship? I would never be involved in an affair (not that it's heading that way), and the fact she has a young child, makes me sad that she did once cheat.

Are you reading too much into this? You get on well in a fun, friendly way, no harm done

I'm not sure what you're asking. Do you feel the flirty behaviour crosses a line? My rule would be, don't say or do anything that you wouldn't feel comfortable doing in front of her husband - or your partner, if you have one.

thanks 'SceamingV' - that makes a lot of sense. I have complimented her on the way she looks sometimes, and she's responded with certain smiles, and even a hug once. I just got a bit weirded out when a colleague mentioned her affair, which makes me look at her in a different light, which may be unfair to her.

I’d say you are being unfair. After all you don’t know it’s true.
You don’t know her circumstances if she did have an affair.
And, if I dare say, you sound overly invested!!

She confided in a colleague a while back, who recently told me. I like her and we get on well, but no, I would not cross that line.

If you remain on the professional side of friendly, you can't go wrong. As a pp said, you don't know the full story of her affair, so don't judge her - just be a good, platonic friend to her.

thanks again 'ScreamingV', I was just a bit surprised, but yes, I won't let it ruin the friendship.

I think you have a cheek to pretend to have the high moral ground tbh. Just be professional, its work fgs.

What on earth is a 'certain' smile?? Smiles and a hug are not necessarily signs of flirting. And now you've heard she's had an affair in the past you seem to think that she's angling for one with you? Or do you just presume she'll sleep with anyone who happens to compliment her?

Dont compliment women on the way they look and then carry on with similar behaviour when shes given you a "certain smile". For fucks sake

I think you like this flirtation to be honest. So be careful