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Do I contact her?

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daldog63 · 28/12/2019 12:53

My partner is going through a period of depression which I think is exacerbated by the menopause. She says she feels numb and has told me to not text, call or write. We argued a few days ago because I had lost patience (she has been critical and withdrawn for a few days) and stormed out. That is when she told me no contact. She did call following a text I sent asking me what I wanted to ask. I wanted to ask are we ok? will this blow over? We are due to get married and I have no idea if this is going ahead. I feel I can't take any more and I don't know what the right thing to do is? If I don't contact her, will she contact me? Everything is so uncertain. Please help.

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PurpleDaisies · 28/12/2019 12:56

If she’s told you not to contact her, you should respect that.

booboo24 · 28/12/2019 13:01

She owes you an answer of sorts, she cant just cut you off like that. However, hounding her won't get her to talk so all you can do is sit tight and wait. I wouldn't let that go on forever though it's quite abusive just to ignore someone for days. How long have you been together?

daldog63 · 28/12/2019 13:17

We have been together for 14 months. I have recently sold my home and have biuyone for us in a very quiet area. 100 miles from my family and friends. She has only her son who is 21 and no close friends. Our wedding is booked and I was to stay with her following my house sale until our house was ready. She was hoping to move up later in the year once her son was settled ok n his own home. Now I don't know if I can stay with her and have nowhere else to go during the period between selling and buying. I just want to know she is ok, and we are ok.

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Greydove28 · 29/12/2019 22:19

Id send her one text saying you are ready to talk when she is and hope she is OK

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