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Rude Brother in law

15 replies

fikel · 27/12/2019 23:27

Don’t see him often but when he does visit our house, he doesn’t say hello to me or my DH, he plonks himself down and just looks at his phone. Has never once initiated any type of conversation with me. He leaves without saying goodbye or thank you. ( After any event we have hosted)
It’s sooooo rude

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lexiepuppy · 28/12/2019 00:12

Has he always been like this?

Why do you invite him round if he is rude?

What does your DH think of him?

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fikel · 28/12/2019 09:49

He’s always been like this, I guess we do it to keep the peace within the family

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fikel · 28/12/2019 09:50

My DH feels the same as me

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pinkyredrose · 28/12/2019 09:52

Has anyone ever asked him why he's such an arsehole?

Zaphodsotherhead · 28/12/2019 10:00

Is he fifteen?

If you don't have to see him often then you could try just plain ignoring him as he ignores you...

Deathraystare · 28/12/2019 10:59

You can call him Kevin (as in Kevin the teenager unless it is his name of course). When he asks why you call him that - tell him why!

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fikel · 28/12/2019 12:46

Ha love that idea of calling him Kevin. My DH has mentioned his rudeness to my SIL but she obviously doesn’t think it’s a problem. If it was my DH he would be getting a good kick in the shins but then I wouldn’t be with someone that awful

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Palaver1 · 28/12/2019 16:09

Is he autistic or does he have some issues

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fikel · 28/12/2019 16:39

Definitely not autistic, has his own flooring company, owns buy to let properties too

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DulciUke · 28/12/2019 16:41

Next time, cut off the wi-fi before he comes over.

pinkyredrose · 28/12/2019 16:42

Does he speak if you speak to him or just grunt?

Notthebloodygym · 28/12/2019 17:36

My daughter had a grunty boyfriend when she was younger . Got short shrift from me, along the lines of 'if you can't be civil to me in my own home, stay away!'

FredaFrogspawn · 28/12/2019 17:39

He sounds arrogant.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 28/12/2019 17:49

Do not keep the peace here (this action merely rewards such bad behaviour) and keep on letting him into your home. Call him out on his behaviour and inform him he is no longer welcome.

Why are your boundaries here with regards to him this poor?. Is it because your husband and you are somehow afraid of him and or wider reaction from family?. You would not tolerate this from a friend, relatives are no different.

Palaver1 · 28/12/2019 19:21

I cant understand why he comes surely there must be an explanation its just so odd .
Do people really act like this ..unbelievable so so rude

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