We broke up just over a year ago. After feeling like the marriage was now just 2 people sharing a house and happening to co-parent but nothing more I became more and more depressed and anxious. I kept trying to fix things but it was only me trying....Eventually I left. I still love them and in my mind I hark back to happier times and regret leaving. I am with someone new now. I am trying to commit to them now, I'd like it to work, but I have not been able to completely move on from my ex. Maybe this is normal and to be expected? How long does it take to get over your ex. I didn't leave because I didn't love them. I left because since we had children, the relevant just seemed to fade away....