Dh drinking is starting to cause problems with my temper

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I don't understand what his problem is. He has now started drinking again while I look after our children. He doesn't get pissed but he acts like a cunt and I have to stay out of his way otherwise I will end up losing my temper and I have to stay sober in case anything happens, but I'm sick to death of it. He said he drinks because he is feeling down and fed up. He is never happy with anything at all he always finds fault with every bloody thing. I think he wants to go out and socialise and not be with his family and that's fine but that's one thing I never get to do. The way he said he feels, I've been feeling exactly like that for a very long time but I'm avoiding antidepressants and I don't speak about my feelings. I feel like going out tomorrow and buying a big bottle of wine and drinking it so that for once, he can stay sober and let me get tipsy. I think he doesn't care how I feel anymore and I feel guilty when he doesn't drink because I know that he is craving for it so badly . I don't want to end 10 years of marriage over this.

You both need to stop drinking.

And probably split up, asap.

He's an angry, aggressive drunk, who doesn't want to change. He'll drag you, the children and the family finances down with him until there is nothing left but debt and intergenerational trauma.

For yourself and for the children, you need to leave.

' I'm avoiding antidepressants '

Don't, nor talking/therapy either. You need to be at your best, for the sake of your children if you can't do it for your own sake. To not look after yourself is irresponsible. You don't get a medal for neglecting your health. The kids will pick up on the gloom at home.

Both of you sound miserable. Time to move on, so all of you will be happier, and please both get the help you need.

Things went from bad to worse. Not physically but emotionally. I've been in tears most of the evening and now realised I have been emotionally abused for years and I can't do it anymore. I don't no what to do. Do I call woman's aid or go somewhere else? Where am I and the children supposed to go? We have no family at all around here. I don't want to make us all deliberately homeless. I need to plan

Definitely call women's aid.
Your local one might have a helpline and there's the national line too.
Keep trying until you get through.

How will they help me ? Do they support woman who suffering from emotional abuse? I'm currently trying to find somewhere to stay. I can't sleep at all. I just want to disappear

Yes they give emotional and practical support.

The other thing you could do is see your GP to talk about not being able to sleep.