My darling Fiancé came home, a while back, having supposed to have had lunch with his father. According to my Fiancé he was done with his father. His F had started the conversation with he doesn’t want to ever see me again as I had been rude to the father’s girlfriend, at least twice, by blanking her. I have only met her twice, first time 7 yrs ago the second time last year, she came into a room, where I was with the fBIL adopted daughter. We were the only two in the room, at the time and the girlfriend completely ignored the two of us, leaving me answer a little girl’s questions if the girlfriend didn’t like me either. The fFIL went on to say he said I had been rude to him (which is not true), he thought I was going to marry his son only then take all his money, because that is what I had done before (also not true) and he won’t be coming to our wedding. My Fiancé said he astounded at his father and told him not to talk about me in this way, as I had done nothing but be nice to him and his family. The F started name calling and said, I was a cockroach. Apparently, then my fiancé lost his temper and told his father, if he wasn’t an old man, he would invite him outside and then went on to tell him a few home truths, including that none of his family or friends like his girlfriend, as she was a “manipulative lying ...”. He told his father, he was done and got up and left the restaurant.
All the photos of the fFIL have disappeared from around the house, my fiancé hasn’t spoken to him since, didn’t send his father a Christmas card and we are going to see his brother and family on a different day from his Dad.
I don’t know what to do. The rest of his family tell me, this is not me but that of the fFIL girlfriend. I love my fiancé so very much but I don’t want to be the cause of a rift between them.