I think I've got a broken heart

[Genvonklinkerhoffen]

Please tell me it will pass. The back story is long and complicated but basically, the man I thought I would spend my life with, has gone away and I don't know if I will ever hear from him again.

It's as much my fault as it is his, I didn't realise what I had when I had it and now a prolonged period of separation due to work seems to have tipped the balance for him.

I just want to know it will pass. It's physically painful, I keep bursting into tears, my heard is pounding, I can't get my breath and I can't eat or sleep.

I love him so much and I miss him terribly, he's in everything I look at.

@mspepperpots thank you. I know. I will start doing these things.

Make an ick list of all the things that pissed you off about him, to remind you that the wasn’t perfect.

Block and delete him off of your phone and social media.

Box up photos and anything he gave you and store it out of the way.

Each time you want to contact him watch a relationship video on YouTube by:

Matthew Hussey
Susan Winters
Alex Cormont
Derrick Jaxn
Mark Groves

This will take time, but you have to start detoxing from him and going NC. It will be difficult, but keep going.

Just remember:

1. You cannot force someone to love you.
2. The only person who can make you truly happy is your self.
3. The only persons behaviour you can control is your own.

Was it a long term relationship? Did you live together?

You will be okay. Give yourself time to heal.

I once felt so sad after a break up I googled can you die from a broken heart.

I’m now happier than I’ve ever been.

@lexiepuppy thank you for that practical advice. Extremely helpful.

@JKScot4 yes, we lived together but we're both in really busy jobs in the military so only "weekending".

@knorrig I've googled that so many times. That's how I feel.

I'm sorry you are hurting. I think the only real way to move on is to find someone else.

Focus your efforts on that. Hard, but it'll work.

Once you accept that it's over it will get better. I think. Accept that he wasn't right for you. And also know that there is nothing wrong with you. It is so painful.
Can you get hooked into something on amazon/Netflix and binge watch? I found that so helpful.
Dynasty was a great distraction.!!
And people are here for you, so keep talking and don't message him, he's not worth it.

@ElizabethMountbatten thank you for sharing that. I'm sorry you went through it.

In what way is he being mean OP?

Thing is, I don’t see why someone should block someone else when they say they want to end things. It should be up to you not to contact him, not up to him to ensure that you can’t.

Break-ups are horrible. But fact is, it’s over. He’s told you it’s over, and contacting him in the hopes that he will give you a glimmer of something is only going to make things worse.

You need to move forward with your life, but that can only happen wen you stop contacting him and put him behind you.

Thanks @AlternativePerspective, going to take some responsibility for myself today.

I hope you're doing ok and are feeling a bit better today @Genvonklinkerhoffen

Physical symptoms are easing a bit now, thank you @MsPepperPotts. Just need to wean myself off looking at social media, fortunately he doesn't do much so it shouldn't be too hard.

Thank you for checking in

Still broken hearted. The reason he started being mean is that he met someone else... she's super cool, pretty, has an unbelievably cool job etc. I feel so foolish because I was there for him for the hardest 12 months of his life, always on the phone when he needed me, writing to him, meeting when he was in the country, literally doing everything in my power to support him. And he dropped me without so much as a goodbye.

He went from "I love you" to not caring in the space of 24 hours. My heart knew the moment he met her tbh. I was overwhelmed with sadness.

So. There we go. I know it tells me what sort of man he is but holy fuck I miss him.