Posted on here before and got Good advice. So here I an again - ongoing saga. Was Dating a guy nearly 5 months- supposedly dumped him last week, but still in contact. Both busy lives, me work long hours and active social life. Him full time job and starting own business. He also has 50% custody of a teenager. We also live 30 mins drive away
We saw each other 1/2 times a week, staying over, text each day, occasionally called. Up till December All was good. December hit and he was busy with his business (craft business) and his family was coming over from abroad, so said he would be spending lots of time with them. Kind of prewarning we won’t see much of each other. Fair dues, it’s Christmas and I had family over too. But seemed I got dropped.
However he seemed to make time for friends, just not me in those weeks. Turns out his family didn’t want to see him week before Xmas as they had other plans. He does this thing of imagining how things should turn out in his head without properly communicating it and gets upset if it doesn’t meet his expectations. He got upset, texting lots of why unfair etc. I invited him round fir support and he said no, needed alone time. However went out with friends. I got fed up, reading into it that he wasn’t interested, as couldn’t make time to see me but could with friends, so nicely ended it. He also made non committal plans with me fir New Years but couldn’t say what arrangement he the day as teenagers choice. we are itv ready to meet the child as not in a stable place. Fair dues,teenager is a priority, so I made other plans. He was not happy with this, saying we could of spent time together - but only if he was free a di am not spending time alone just in case. This was what ended it.
Xmas day, he calls and apologised for being an idiot. Said he likes me, but has his guard up as hurt before, last relationship he was henpecked and lost touch with friends. Now back in terms. Talked to his family about me and they said he was being an idiot, I was different and surprised it took me so long to dump him. He said let’s met up on 27th as that’s our only free time. I am going as interested to hear what he has to say.
Yesterday he texts and says he has been give tickets to the football, so he is going. I am slightly annoyed as he said he had to spend time with his family, but can dump them to go to the football, but couldn’t make time to see me in the part week. Feel slightly selfish at feeling this way over football.
So should I hear him out and chalk up the last month to weird December with competing plans or just ignore. For some reason I can’t give up this guy. Any other guy would have been dumped for lesser reasons.