Ex's new girlfriend

[LearnedMyLesson]

After 15 years of unhappy marriage, I finally grew a pair and divorced him. Found out he was cheating towards the end anyways. We have two kids at home, one mine and one ours. They are teens. He was with the cheater girl for a few months, (divorced 6 months ago) and now he is with another girl(long distance) one month with a 10 year old. She is oblivious to his history of drugs, abuse, lies, cheating, absent parenting and even worse spouse. I tried to warn her, but he has got his claws in her and is being told that I am just the crazy ex and not to listen. He still messages me that he wants me back and I have screen shotted them and showed her, but she will not listen(love is blind), they did not spend the holidays together and he did not even call his kid for Christmas. How to I make her see his ways and avoid my son having to endure the latest tartlet that he is with. He only has him on weekends to impress his girlfriend, he is a terrible father and Karma is not working fast enough.

It's none of your business

Well you don't want to make her see his ways because you care about her. The fact that you're calling a woman who hasn't done anything to you a "tartlet" makes that clear. Just mind your own business. She'll find out for herself

Why are you calling her a tartlett? She has done nothing wrong to you. Absolutely no need.

Tartlet?????

You sound very angry. Move on with your own life and completely ignore his.

Umm. You don't? Because you're not married to him and he and his gf are really none of your business.

'Tartlet'? There's no need for that sort of language and it will lose you a lot of sympathy. Just mind your own business.

Took you 15 years to leave him. Would you have done so sooner is someone told you he was a knob? Doubt it.

You can do your best by your kids, you can’t change your ex or his girlfriend so stop stressing. Karma isn’t a thing. They might end up happy ever after.

I am not calling the latest girl a tartlet, I don't even know her and you are right, she has done nothing wrong, except believe he is going to ride off into the sunset with this man who is awful. Yes, it took me 15 years to finally leave, because not all of those years were bad, but I also was building up my end to be stable. He is terrible with kids, especially ours and is leading her on to use her for money or whatever else. He was just at my house last night to pick up our son and stated he loves me and will cast her aside if I let him come home again. This will never happen, but just shows that her and her son will be hurt in the process. I guess it is not me business, I am just trying to break the cycle. My son deserves better than to spend time with his father that is using him to make him look good and get into yet another girls bed. I worry about the example he is setting. My son loves his father, but knows the awful things he has done and witnessed them first hand. He feels pity and my Ex guilt trips him into spending time with him, so he can basically babysit the new gf's kids while they get busy. It is a train wreck.

I don't want him back, I just want to stop him from doing it again if possible, but more importantly keep my son from witnessing him doing it over and over

Stop calling his new gf and slagging him off. Let them get on with it. Your son will make his own decisions about his dad. Just stop. You can't control everything. Omg on about they didnt spend xmas together. It's none of your business. Maybe she has had a go at him about the screen shots- you dont know - you aren't there. Worry about yourself.