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When enough is enough.

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Karenisbaren · 26/12/2019 21:03

So I have a very close family member with mental health issues/drug abuse/alchol abuse problems.

But I have put up with two years verbal abuse, having to phone the police several times, sectioned ect ect.

Lately this person has started getting aggressive by pushing prodding ect, this person has sent messages this evening, threatening messages, turned up at door, being aggressive ect, I phoned the police, police came, took him away, he must have spun a sob story as around 20 mins later he was home and sent me a facebook message saying they were above the law and thanking me for getting the police to take them to the shop for liquor.

I am cutting this very close person out of my life as I have tried and tried and tried and tried ti support them but all I get is abuse, am I being unkind? as for me enough is totally enough now.

I have blocked this person on facebook and have decided that I am not doing this anymore

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TimeforanotherChange · 26/12/2019 21:15

Block and ignore. If they turn up on doorstep phone the police again.

You do not owe anyone this much. You are not being unreasonable and don't have to take abuse.

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Karenisbaren · 26/12/2019 21:18

TimeforanotherChange, I have blocked and your right, I have tried as hard as I can, but I cant try anymore, I am done and thank you.

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Khione · 26/12/2019 21:22

Block them, and the very least the police will have done is tell them to stay away from yours, so they are unlikely to be there in the near future.

If the police hadn't said that they would have been at your door again not messaging you

Longsight2019 · 26/12/2019 21:25

Be prepared to report everything they do. Also document everything they do. Any threats, loitering, abuse, of any description. Keep screenshots. Record if you can.

Vile these people.

Elieza · 26/12/2019 21:38

Quite right. There comes a time when you can’t help someone any more as they just don’t appreciate it. Walk away.

Get a ring doorbell. That way there is evidence if they prowl around outside your house or come to your door even if you’re out.

Not trying to freak you out but they may look for things to steal to sell for drug money and they know what’s in your home and when you go to work etc so make sure the house alarm is working and get a Ring or cctv to protect your home.

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Karenisbaren · 27/12/2019 00:07

Longsight2019 and Elieza thank you. I will heed your advice.

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Longsight2019 · 27/12/2019 07:48

It’s a good time to buy!

en-uk.ring.com/products/video-doorbell-2?variant=

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