First xmas divorced and ex sends flowers?

[Onlylovecould]

So we separated and divorced this year.

He decided he'd had enough after 22 years together, married 18 years and moved in with a woman from work who left her young kids to move in with him.

He left me, our now 14 year old son and his older 24 year old son when he moved out. I was completely stunned, fell apart, broken beyond belief but have built myself and our son back up to be strong again.

We went away for Christmas but he didn't know as the boys are refusing to speak to him.

Our divorce was completed on 12 Dec, son's bday 14 Dec but I hadn't spoken to him at all.

A neighbour called on Xmas eve to say that there was big bunch of flowers outside the front door. Turns out they are from him saying Happy Christmas to you all. Lots of love Daddypig (his nickname).

I am v cross that he thinks it's ok to do this. He could message, gift the boys anything. They don't care about flowers.

Why does he think that this is ok? I sent a thank you as I want to rise about him but really this is not appropriate and I want to tell him that. What do you think?

He is afraid a bit that I am starting to move on and maybe his new relationship isn't so good after all but then he did describe it to me as 'convenient' at one point.

And this will be what’s behind the flowers and the use of the nickname. Nobody who is truly in love and happy describes their relationship as convenient. I’d bet my best Christmas present on the fact that the glow is rapidly wearing off and he’s looking into the future with one eye on the possibility of waltzing back into his role as ‘Daddy Pig’ if things don’t work out the way he wants.

He wants to have a relationship of some kind with me as he thinks I influence the boys' thinking but they are both old enough to know a liar and a cheater when they see one. Even when I tell them he wasn't always like that. What he wants to do is manipulate you into manipulating them, thinking that none of you will realise what he’s doing.