I don't want my child around my partners sister

[Funnymummy44]

Basically his sister is very mean to me. Ever since I got pregnant. She was the one person that caused me sooo much stress during my pregnancy. When my child was born she used to snatch him off people and take the baby to her room. This got me upset because she wouldn't ask or let us know that's she's taking him. My boyfriend confronted her. She accused me of treating her like a peado and so did all her family. This caused a big situation because. I was a new mum I am going to be overprotective and want to know where my child is. Then she accused me of stopping my child from seeing her family. Which made everyone hate me but it wasn't true. I just got tired of always taking my child to them and no coming to see the baby at mine so he went there once a week . The sister has called me a bad parent. Ignored me in front her family and mine and even in front of my baby. And even accused me of being a child abuser and this hurts because It wasn't true. So I stopped going to their house and and told my partner I didn't want my child around her. His family refused to respect our wishes and she said to him as long as my child is looked after what does this matter. My partner wanted to avoid drama so he keeps bringing our child around her. Despite how disrespectful she is. What should I do ?

You have legal responsibility for your child. Put your foot down and take control.

How old is she?

She accused me of treating her like a peado and so did all her family

Perhaps she should stop acting like a paedo then? 🤷‍♀️

She is 30

She sounds horrendous. I don't blame you for wanting to keep your baby away from her. It's so hard when it's family, especially when your boyfriend doesn't help defend you... hope she realises she's been horrid and grows up a bit! X

His family refuses to respect your wishes.
They've crossed the line.
DH needs to respect you and realise that you and baby are number 1.
I'd be telling him what is going to be happening from now on- and he'd not be taking baby to his family.
If they want to visit then they come to you where you can keep an eye on things- and only after an apology for how they have treated you.

It's very frustrating. Everyone's making it seem as if it's not a big deal. And whenever something happens I get blamed for it

It's causing big issues in my relationship with my partner because he's failing to understand and goes on as if it's okay

She called you a child abuser?!?! What?? Why??? This sounds so weird.

She's so deluded I don't know why

Christ. I had a similar ish situation. And it almost drove me insane. My ex was an alcoholic. He went to rehab twice. The family all waived it away and kept pouring wine in his glass and telling me to stop fussing about his drinking. It then escalated into me being a bitch to him, over his drinking. It ended up with me being a total cunt and mad bitch in their eyes. We have 2 kids and I was the breadwinner, caregiver. Everything. I am NC with the whole family. I hope your situation isn't anything like mine...

Why would she take a baby up to her room which isn't hers the weirdo.
Put your foot down. It's your child not hers.
She sounds batshit and I wouldn't let me DC around someone like that.
The family can also do one if they don't like it.
By the sounds of it she still lives at home at 30, speaks volumes.

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He's disrespecting you and not giving a damn about you to avoid drama.

So cause drama. He either stands by his partner or them. He can't have both.