I dont think I can take anymore of the relationship I'm in. We have been together for nearly 8yrs. The last yr since the birth of our second daughter hasnt been the best. It was very difficult the first few months as she had horrendous reflux and a milk allergy which as you can expect put alot of pressure on both of us. It hasnt been the same since and I feel its actually a hell of alot worse.
I dont like how he parents our older girl who is 4. He shouts and has grabbed her a few times which has made me extremely uncomfortable. Last week this happened whilst she was having the mother of all tantrums and I stood inbetween them and he was screaming and shouting like a mad man at me to get out of his way and mind my own business. During this he grabbed me by the arms and was shaking me in front of our daughter and i could hear the baby screaming in our bedroom as she was frightened by the whole commotion. He grabbed me that hard i was left with a bruise on the inside of my right arm. He slammed the door into the wall and left a big hole in the wall.The next day he apologised to both me and our daughter and said he was just getting really stressed out and he didnt handle the situation very well. He said I dont help matters during those situations. I might also add I was beaten regularly by my dad and he is aware of this and has got mad saying I'm not like your dad I'm not abusing my child. No he isnt beating her but gets so so angry I hate it. He promised me this wouldn't happen again and said he felt horrendous over the whole thing. This afternoon we was getting ready to go for a walk. It was quite tense anyway as he was going mad about the state of the house with toys everywhere.... its xmas day!!!! When we got out the door my 4 yr old said I want a scarf. He said no you was asked and you said no before so you can go without... I was like flip hang on I'll go get you a scarf love.... he flipped and threw a pair of gloves rolled up at me... sounds silly I know it was only a pair of rolled up gloves but it's just the aggression in him.... he then stormed off for an hr then came back never said a word to me and has gone to bed.... I dont know what to do.... I used to love this man so much but he has changed into someone I dont like at all. Sorry for the long rant I have no where else to turn. My mum sent me a message saying she hoped I had a lovely day and i just burst into tears.... I'm miserable