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My crappy relationship pattern

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Nomintrude · 24/12/2019 07:29

I've just recently bought a house with my partner, and even though we've been living together for a while I'm freaking out a bit about no longer having my 'own space' (having given up my flat), even though we haven't spent a night apart for ages before this anyway. I don't know if it's just the reaction to the stress of moving just before Christmas - I'm sitting here surrounded by boxes - but I've just been feeling so irritable and so many things about my partner at the moment are annoying me, I feel as if I'm constantly biting my tongue so as not to be critical or cause an argument. TBF he does have some irritating qualities but so do I and I know I'm being unreasonable really. I seem to get to a stage with every relationship I've been in where I can't tolerate the faults I perceive in my partner and struggle to keep it to myself. I really love DP and don't want to mess this up, even more so as the stakes are so high having just got a mortgage together. What on earth can I do about this? Why am I so horrible?

OP posts:
OhioOhioOhio · 24/12/2019 07:30

Go for a bath and hide for a bit.

BonfireStarter · 24/12/2019 09:07

I can empathise, it's hard losing your own space and having to live with someone. Maybe try to set some ground rules in a good natured way, before things get under your skin. So if laundry on the floor bothers you then tell him.

I think you have to prioritise too, some differences in lifestyle you have to accept, compromise on and bite your tongue, as he has to with you. Have some regular time alone to recharge.

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