Supporting a friend going through a divorce

[Briz]

A friend of mine is going through a messy divorce. She's devastated.
We're all rallying around but I just wondered if mumsnet can help:
For those who have been through a divorce, how can friends help? What did they do that really helped and was there anything you think friends should avoid? We know we can't take her pain away, we just want to be there for her as best we can. Thank you!

Just listen, let her cry and rage it all out
If she calls when it’s inconvenient just say ...I’m cooking tea , bathing children right now will call you when I’m done as I’ve got a free hour
Will help her to hang on to her feelings safe in the knowledge that when she can let rip she’s got your undivided attention for an hour

You need to set your own boundaries too ....see

It’s an admirable thing you are doing
I had great support when going through the marriage breakdown from hell coupled with the divorce from hell

Thanks so much x

I'm going through it at the moment although mine isn't messy. The best thing my friends are doing is being there for me, texting to say hi, inviting me out. I'm struggling to be alone so even being invited to sit and watch tv with them is greatly recieved. She's very lucky to have you 💐