Been a pretty rough time since having my DD. I split up with her dad, then ended up with a very abusive man. We were together for 2 years and haven't been together for 3, but he still harasses me and I'm terrified. After that, I think I was assaulted on my first date out of that. It's something I'm only just piecing together as I don't remember. Took time out of dating, went back in and just got ghost ghost ghost
After all this, I finally met someone. It was actually AFTER deleting the apps because I knew him through mutual friends. 3 months down the line, we are together and really happy. He has asked about meeting DD (I said no) and me meeting his family (I also said no).
However, he has a bit of a reputation of being a party boy. I gave him a chance but sure enough plans started to get messed up because of it. We came to blows and he opened up to me that he hated himself and knew he needed to change so I offered support. Then it happened again and he barely seemed bothered. So I said listen I can handle that you make mistakes but I'm not prepared to accept you treating me like this and not even bothering to try and make it right and expecting me to take it, so I'm done now as I deserve better.
I was gutted enough about this, but to top it off, he had left his social media logged in at mine. I'd never looked and actually thought I'd logged off but when on today and sure enough it was still there and I thought well nothing to lose, it's already over.
Firstly, he goes out a LOT more than he made out to me.
Secondly, he is still on tinder and speaking to other girls.
The way he is speaking to his mates on his messages about these girls is utterly disgusting. He hasn't said a bad word about me in his defence, and said he 'might hang up his tinder boots' (which he said he had done a long time ago)...but I don't really care in the grand scheme of things. It's awful. He seems to be messaging these girls when he's out and drunk for a booty call. Then between nights out he will reply or send them the odd message but never hold a conversation, obviously to keep them on the back burner. There's even one girl that's messaged him while he was at my house, and he sent her a picture of my dog and told her a funny story that happened but said it was his mate.
I'm gobsmacked to be honest and have no idea how I could've been so utterly stupid. How can someone be that cruel? Not to mention, if any of his booty calls were successful, he has now put me at risk of STIs as I went on the pill about a month ago after I got tested.
Feeling like a fool and could really do with some kind words to help me pick myself up tomorrow and get on with Xmas for DD