Had enough dp's behaviour (undiagnosed aspergers) has bad rage and violence towards kids and made me believe it's normal to daily smack kids. He is unable to control his temper, never has hence always walking on eggshells to avoid kids bad behaviour in case it triggers him. I have to say I have smacked kids before too bit feel absolutely disgusted with myself and feel it's very wrong to justify it and blame their behaviour for it.he is also a very affectionate father when kids aren't intense but when it all gets too much, he just breaks down. Tonight I told him I want him out after xmas and he said he will but it felt he just said it as he was to hurt but later when I was trying to have a calm talk with him and tried to make him believe that it's the best for the kids right now, he disagreed and said he doesn't see how it's good for the kids bit then he grew up in a very disfunctional broken family with mother having mental health issues so he feels families should stick together no matter what. He is petrified losing out kids life but what he doesn't see is that he isn't part of them now as he is too overwhelmed by them all... I just want him to be in a good place where he is happier!