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Letting a good thing go

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Betteringmyself · 22/12/2019 20:59

So I left a emotionally and mentally abusive relationship around 3 months ago (it was probably over a while before that but took me a lot of strength to finally leave). It was the best thing Is ever did but he really hurt me over the years and I completely lost myself and a lot of friends. I have been going out with my friends a lot more recently and just enjoying the little things in life. Joined the gym, lost weight and been saving loads of money.

I have been speaking to someone else for the past few weeks and went on a date with him in the last few days. It’s very early but he seems like everything my ex wasn’t even from the first date. He was polite, very positive and seems very driven. It sounds very silly but I could honestly see it going somewhere.

However I just can’t help but feel like I am not over my ex. Not that I still want to be with him, I mean as in not over the damage he has caused me. I’m a shell of the person I was and have been working so hard to build myself back up. I promised myself that I was going to be on my own for at least a year.

I’m so torn. Do I give this guy and chance or throw something potentially great away because of the damage that bastard caused?

The new guy is really wanting to see me again and I’d hate to lead someone thats seems so genuinely lovely on.

OP posts:
MissConductUS · 22/12/2019 21:18

I'd give it a chance, just go slowly and make sure he knows your situation. Being in a healthy relationship may make your recovery from your prior relationship easier.

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