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He has a girlfriend :-(

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confusedfeelingss · 22/12/2019 17:54

I'd never be someone who would ever enter into a relationship with a guy who has a partner...just to be clear on that from the start! This is more a 'woe is me' thread.

I met a guy in the summer who is in a band, we met due to a festival I was working.
He is gorgeous, hilarious and in so many ways my perfect kind of guy...except he has a girlfriend.

Why are the guys I always like unavailable...either in a relationship or just totally emotionally messed up from previous relationships.

As said above, I'd never enter into any kind of flirting or anything whilst he's in a relationship

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Lulufluff · 22/12/2019 17:59

Because such is life! Just forget about him and don’t be that girl.
Plenty more fish in the sea!

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confusedfeelingss · 22/12/2019 18:01

Oh I have no plans to be that girl....this is just a 'sod's law' moment.

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Lulufluff · 22/12/2019 18:04

@confusedfeelingss completely get it, definitely been there
A lot of the good ones normally do have girlfriends especially when they are gorgeous and hilarious
Always an element of wanting what you can’t have too I suppose.

Pinkbonbon · 22/12/2019 18:11

Yeah and the ones who are 'messed up from previous relationships' are usually just narcissists spinning you that shite for pity.

Sucks about band guy. On he brightside, sometimes it's just nice to have a crush. Sorta bittersweet. Safer to have' em on actors ect though lol.

Rockinmomma · 22/12/2019 20:28

Ahhhh I had this a couple of years ago (also a guy in a band) lots of eye contact, seemed he went out of his way to talk to me at gigs but alas..... girlfriend! I pined for a few months and chose to not go to anymore of his gigs

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confusedfeelingss · 22/12/2019 21:19

See we talk in between gigs as we have mutual interests.

On a plus....my ex was there last night....he was jealous that I was talking to another guy.....his loss

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helpfulperson · 22/12/2019 21:37

I find that the best way to get over this is to let yourself wallow in the 'what if's' for a day or two and them move on. But that wallowing period really helps

Tinytimoteo · 23/12/2019 06:42

The fact he flirts like that when he has a gf would be enough to make me go eww he will do the same if you were together.

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confusedfeelingss · 23/12/2019 09:42

I've never said he flirts....like I said, we talk as we have mutual interests

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