Pregnant Christmas blues

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10 days to due date

AIBU to think in laws are being unreasonable to expect to come over this weekend / for my my partner and daughter to go and see them ? This weekend without me ?

Surely they realise I can do without the disturbance and could go into labour anytime !

They live nearly three hours away .

Anyone there ?

There's no way I'd go. I wouldn't be happy with my husband and daughter going either. YANBU.

It depends how much maintenance they require. If they expect to be waited on hand and foot then yes they're being u but if they'll muck in and entertain dd and tidy up as they go I think it's nice and gives you a mental break/ distraction.

id say YANBU for you to come over, not if you live that far away. its along track when heavily pregnant.

can they come to you for a visit? but I'm sure they would like to see your partner and daughter at christiams- at 3 hours if you went in to about your OH would be home well in time for you to need to go to hospital.

That comment was for if they came to you.

Missed that they want to come to you, thought they wanted you to go to them. Depends on how well you get on with them and how useful they are when they visit.

Don’t listen to the poster who said your partner would be back in time if you went into labour while he was at his parents. I just gave birth two weeks ago and total time was 2 hours 51 mins. 🙄 if you have a child already the next labour is a lot quicker!! I would say have the in laws visit you. They can watch your daughter if you need to go to hospital.

They won’t muck in if they come . Quite the opposite . They’ll get angry if we are busy and expect to be served and entertained .Plus I don’t feel well . Plus they are throwing toys out of the pram . Surely they’d understand if I and my daughter aren’t well , and I have a baby DH due in ten days , that it is unreasonable for them to visit or for us to visit them at this moment .

Worse part is that ten days before the baby is due they are quite happy to expect my partner to drive over there and leave me at the risk of me going into labour .

They don’t do childcare .

YANBU!
They should understand your partner needs to be with you because you could go into labour at any moment! Three hours away is quite a lot.
I'm only going to my MILs because they literally live up the road, any more and I wouldn't be able to make it at 40wks!
Talk to your DP, surely they understand that it's just not practical.

OH has gone . Alone . I encouraged him to just to try and help him keep the peace and have time with them

I have spent the last month or so trying to get him to go visit them ( all of us together ) but he just wouldn’t go . Now being so close to being due I genuinely don’t want a crowd , especially when the relationships are already strained

I think there is something going on between them all that I don’t understand .

They don’t seem to be getting on and the atmosphere is pretty bad when we do meet .

I'm due tomorrow and have a water infection and kidney stones 😩 so I know the feeling. Tell them to piss off. If they wana come down their more then welcome but you ain't doing anything special or getting off your arse to help them or get them drinks. They no were it all is and make that point crystal clear!!!
Least they live 3 hours away and you don't have face them all the time haha could be worse....

Iv got 6 kids and 3 adults to feed Christmas Day and that's planned. Usually we have a few random guests turn up but atLeast they all chip in an help so I can't moan then my MIL does a party on the night and I cannot wait for it. Put my feet up an the kids all play an make a mess at hers not mine lol!
Just be clear you ain't doin a thing an stick to it xxx

Focus on yourself - if there is any time you need to do so it's now. We have roughly the same due date and I would be absolutely livid if anyone dared pulled this on me at this stage. Hope you get some rest and a cosy Christmas!

Thanks comments are really helpful .