Hello, I'm 29 and have been with my bf for 4 years. A couple of years ago I found out he had kissed & was sexting a member of his extended family (not related btw) my problem was & still is that because of who it was with its very difficult for me to attend his family get-togethers as there's a chance she could be there. I always tell my bf to go so he can spend time with his family but he doesn't. Here lies the problem...I get the impression he makes it out to his family he is 'not allowed to go' which I have never said! He makes this puppy dog sad face & I look like a bully. I chose to get back with him although I don't think I can forgive & forget what he did, it's the humiliation I think (especially as everyone knows what he did & who with) I can't see how we'll ever have a normal relationship again. I think his family are starting to dislike me now as I'm coming across as rude but I'm not i'm just struggling. Bf works ridicoulous hours, I hardly see him & when I do we bicker. Lately it's his hygiene & it's really bothering me how he can go 4-5 days without showering, maybe he is depressed but I asked him he said he isn't. I'm not getting any younger & I'd like to have children but not with someone who's family give me anxiety & who I have to tell to wash & brush his teeth. What do you think I should do? Thank you