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Need to vent - Selfish H

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Lornica · 21/12/2019 22:35

So tonight DH and I had a minor falling out, as he got tetchy because he wanted to watch the football and all wasn't perfect for him to do so I.e. kitchen after meal needed tidying and DC about. I told him that he wasn't pulling his weight and he said having a pet in our house stresses him out and so he can't bring himself to do the other stuff (cleaning, tidying, etc.). If we didn't have the pet (my idea) then it wouldn't be a problem.

He started on about the clothes being on the stairs (which I have washed, dried and unloaded but hoped he might have taken up). It all annoyed me so much I went upstairs and cleaned the bathroom. Literally to the point of using hair pins to fish out the gross bits of hair and soap in the drains, etc. He was downstairs and loaded the dishwasher. He hasn't wiped the table or put the chicken carcass in the bin or anything else. He then sat in the living room watching a film and didn't even tidy the toys in there.

He came up and immediately started moaning. He said the bed needed changing and "that was more important that the bathroom". It's beyond annoyed me! I've had to come downstairs as I'm so annoyed!!!!!

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squigglybook · 21/12/2019 22:36

Sounds like a great guy well done on that

Karwomannghia · 21/12/2019 22:41

Yes he’s being a dick no doubt about that. Is he always like that?
Also I got this drain thing like a long plastic pointy thing with hooks from a home bargains type place for about £2 that pulled a load of clogged hair out of the plug hole and it was utterly disgusting but quite satisfying.
Maybe next time use one of those? Oh and serve it for his tea?

Lornica · 21/12/2019 22:50

@Karwomannghia that sounds good - will have to keep an eye out. I find it quite relaxing cleaning. Maybe I should collect all the horrible bits and bake them into a cake!

He's been in a miserable mood recently. He's never bothered with cleaning. If I ever asked him to do some he'd say we should get a cleaner. It's only now he's moaning all the time that I've noticed how little he does. In over 10 years he has never cleaned the bathroom. When he does anything he constantly asks me how to use various things which annoyed me and I think I'd rather do it myself.

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whatsinthebagwhatcoulditbe · 21/12/2019 22:53

Why don't you get a cleaner if he has suggested that? If you can afford one (and obviously not everyone can) it seems like a no-brainer.

mineofuselessinformation · 21/12/2019 22:54

I'd rather do it myself - that's he whole pint of him making a fuss about it.
Get a cleaner!

mineofuselessinformation · 21/12/2019 22:55

point

Lornica · 21/12/2019 22:56

@whatsinthebagwhatcoulditbe we do now as often as we can but still need to do the bits in between. Even basic stuff like taking bins out and wiping kitchen after cooking. That and tidying which is the main bugbear.

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Karwomannghia · 21/12/2019 23:00

Really do get a cleaner it’s wonderful!

Mermaidsinthesand · 21/12/2019 23:16

You seriously need a cleaner?

Maybe get your lazy arse wipe of a husband to clean up. Your not his slave

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