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Feel like I can't talk to my husband

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Rosielove · 21/12/2019 15:22

Been with Dh 10 years, married 5. I have been feeling quite low lately and feel like there are a few things in our relationship that need working on. Our working hours mean we dont spend much time together. He works nights so I spend most evenings on my own, and we dont go out. He has ed so no sex and he hasn't chased up his neurologist appointment. Recently found out he regularly looks at porn on his phone - this has been an ongoing problem but he told me he had stopped

Anyway, I have been keeping my feelings in for a long time because I know hes stressed at work and didn't want to burden him.
Yesterday it all came out, I told him how unhappy I was and my concerns for our future if things dont change.i was upset but very calm.
He seemed to listen, then went to work. He normally texts me through the evening, he didn't text to see if I was ok. Hes home now and hasn't asked me how I am. Its almost as if I've annoyed him.
Surely I should be able to voice any concerns to my husband so we can work on them together? Dont know what else to do.

OP posts:
Ridiculousanx · 21/12/2019 15:25

Ask him how he feels about what you said?

AnFiadhRuaRua · 21/12/2019 15:25

Is he hoping you'll just drop it? Obviously what you've said to him requires a response of some sort but he is very passively just sitting there sulking. What reaction do you think he wants from you? Do you think that if you said ''i'm so sorry I raised these problems, so sorry I made you uncomfortable by burdening you yesterday, ignore me'', would he defrost? Would he reward you for burying the issues with a better mood!

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