Dating; convince me!

[minxthemanx]

Married for 20 years, v unhappy last 7. Final stages of divorce after difficult years. 2DS age 18 and 13. Both had serious medical probs which added to the stress, but okayish now and just typical teenagers. Friends want me to meet someone nice and live a little. Absolutely terrified by thought of dating apps; total strangers who are prob making half of it up....do these things ever actually work? Anyone here?

I was with DH 14 years, he died in 2014. The apps work, you just have to persistent and grow a thick skin. Met Ex very quickly, together 2 years, ended amicably. On apps for a year, about 10 first dates, some awful, some good. Met current boyfriend 15 months ago, he's on his way to spend Christmas with us.

Oh that's lovely to hear, well done. The thought of it terrifies me, trying to mske an

Love your own self for a change and give the dating apps a wide berth for the time being. You need to have some time on your own to heal, the last thing you need in the next few months is yet another relationship.

I would also consider looking at the Freedom Programme run by Womens Aid as abusive and or otherwise controlling men can and do mess up boundaries in relationships. Yours need strengthening upwards because they may well have been eroded by your previous relationship.

Sorry, small talk with complete strangers but I guess next year I'll just have to bite the bullet. All seems like a lot of hard work but it would be nice to find someone that isn't a total bell end.

Attila DH was a selfish twat but I'm a pretty strong woman who has coped with a lot in life. I'm in no great rush but haven't had a marriage for several years ; I wouldn't be running from one relationship to another. Just some decent food, drink and chat would be nice.

I was on dating apps for ages, stumbling from one bad decision to the next and about to give up when I met my lovely fiance on there. Been together 2.5 years now

That's lovely to hear. So there are some nice people out there.