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How to stop talking to this guy ?

36 replies

Taylorisme5 · 20/12/2019 09:48

I met someone at a friend's wedding a few weeks back. He seemed cool and I sent him a message on Facebook recently, and we have been talking. However, I find him arrogant and we don't seem to have much in common. He's my close friends' personal trainer though, and I feel like it's kinda rude to just stop replying ? He hasn't asked me out or anything, just back and forth messages. What would you do to stop things ?

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Tensixtysix · 20/12/2019 09:49

Ignore him and see if he changes his tune. Then block if he gets nasty.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 20/12/2019 09:50

what was the last message he sent...does it warrant a response....
you basically want to send something along the lines of "great, well have a good xmas and new year."....then leave it

MissPepper8 · 20/12/2019 09:53

I mean just don't reply? You could easily be busy or forget to reply? If you don't like him I can't see how it is rude to stop replying? And if he still messages you just be short in your replies to him.

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Taylorisme5 · 20/12/2019 09:54

He's told me that I seem 'really geeky' and he questions everything I say, i.e I said in a jokey way I was funny and said "Why do you think you are funny ?". Then I told him I would probably continue running over Christmas and for the last 3 messages he's whined on about it "eurghhh !! Bleurghh !! Why would you do any running over the Christmas holidays ??! I can't think of anything worse !!".
I think the closing the message with "Have a great Christmas and New Year" is a good idea !

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Taylorisme5 · 20/12/2019 09:56

Yeah maybe, just as he knows 2 of my close mates and sees them often maybe he will tell them I just stopped replying, I guess I don't really owe him a reply but don't wanna seem rude.

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Betterbegoing · 20/12/2019 09:57

He isn’t too arsed about being rude!! I’d normally agree with you but seriously? Just stop replying. He sounds like a cock.

MarthasGinYard · 20/12/2019 09:57

'Getting ultra busy here so I'll wish you a very happy Christmas In advance'

HowlsMovingBungalow · 20/12/2019 09:57

Just stop replying - quite simple!.

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Taylorisme5 · 20/12/2019 09:58

He seems to fancy himself a lot, and when I asked why he thought I was so geeky he said he was "very good at putting people into catégories"... I was like mate you can't just lump people into one single category especially when you have never met them 😂

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MarthasGinYard · 20/12/2019 10:00

He sounds grim

And contrary

Avoid

MissPepper8 · 20/12/2019 10:03

See this is where I'd just ignore him, don't reply to him. I don't think you have to be nice he clearly isn't. It's Christmas and people get busy anyway

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Taylorisme5 · 20/12/2019 10:04

Yeah maybe it's for the best ! Not likely i'm going to see him again I suppose. If my friends get arsey about it then so be it

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CodenameVillanelle · 20/12/2019 10:06

Leave it longer and longer between messages if you don't feel you can just cut him off completely

Palavah · 20/12/2019 10:09

Never mind not replying - I'd be blocking him, he sounds like a nob.

SophieSong · 20/12/2019 10:16

God just don’t reply. And get better friends if they are the type to get funny with you not continuing a random Facebook conversation.

Equanimitas · 20/12/2019 10:20

Just let it fizzle out with longer and longer gaps between replies, and really neutral responses that don't open up any excuses for further discussion.

MarthasGinYard · 20/12/2019 10:20

Why on Earth would your friends get arsey?

TwiddleMuff · 20/12/2019 10:23

You owe him absolutely nothing, and your friends are dicks if they are the type to get annoyed over who you choose to message online.

DailyMailcanfuckthefuckoff · 20/12/2019 10:26

A classic case of negging from this guy. You don't owe him anything and he's been very unpleasant, so don't worry about replying. However, I'd put money down that in a couple of weeks you'll receive a nasty message off him, which you can show to your mutual friends if they ask what happened! Grin

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 20/12/2019 10:27

I mean honestly, if a man I knew told me that a friend had stopped replying to them, I'd just think it was weird that they'd mentioned it. I don't control who my friends reply to, or particularly care. It's their relationship!

Your friends won't care whether you're having a chat to their PT or not. Genuinely. If you want to close it off, just wish him a merry Christmas and happy new year and mute the conversation Smile

ChuckleBuckles · 20/12/2019 10:34

he was "very good at putting people into catégories"

So do the same and file him in Trash, don't even think of it OP, just don't reply. If your friends ask just tell them you are busy.

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Taylorisme5 · 20/12/2019 10:51

Thanks, I probably have been overthinking it all ! He's not been pleasant and i'm not obliged to continue talking. My friends love him and rave about how great he is, but true it's none of their business if I reply or not.

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AnyFucker · 20/12/2019 10:54

Really ?

Just ignore him. Are you always so wet ?

yellowallpaper · 20/12/2019 11:06

Just start by reducing your responses to half the length of his messages, then a quarter and then just tail off, with a couple of LOLs and a halt. He sound a total prick and I wouldn't waste time on him.

WorldEndingFire · 20/12/2019 12:01

Classic negging - emotional manipulator. Cut him off.

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Negging

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