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Not that interested ?

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Phoenixxx · 19/12/2019 21:34

We have been talking for around 4 weeks online. He's sometimes very slow to reply, taking a couple of days, but writes long messages. It was me who asked him to meet up and he seemed keen to.
I was meant to meet him on Tuesday and he texted 2 hours before saying he wasn't feeling great and wouldn't be good company, he was annoyed as he had really wanted to meet me, could we do it another time ?
I said that was OK and asked when, and he said it would have to be January now, then continued to make conversation.

Does it seem like he isn't that interested ? He seems to have a busy life and me too, but 4 weeks and we still haven't met. I know Christmas is a busy time, and he could have just ghosted as many guys do. Would you carry on talking to him ?

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Phoenixxx · 19/12/2019 21:35

I don't know why, but I have 'married' ringing in my head !

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LouisaJenny · 19/12/2019 22:18

Go with your gut OP.

LellyMcKelly · 19/12/2019 22:42

Married with bells on.

Lampan · 19/12/2019 23:02

Even if you do meet you will have been messaging for 6 weeks. It’s too long really. I’d fade this one out. I know life gets in the way but it’s best to meet ASAP

BumbleBeee69 · 19/12/2019 23:03

he was annoyed as he had really wanted to meet me

more like he was annoyed something interfered with his plans.. like a family .. Hmm

P1nkHeartLovesCake · 19/12/2019 23:08

He’s not that in to you...

If someone wants to meet they just find time, they just do

Forget this one, on to the next....

wellthatwasthat · 19/12/2019 23:16

Well leaving it till the new year means he doesn't have to buy you a Christmas present. Or spend any time with you over the holidays. Hmm.

Next!

ISmellBabies · 19/12/2019 23:17

I also think married! He's happy to delay it until January as he already has a family keeping him busy. You're a distraction he can pick up when he's bored and drop without a second thought. Ditch this one op.

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Phoenixxx · 19/12/2019 23:17

I agree. Plus it was me who asked to meet him and not the other way round. 6 weeks is pretty ridiculous, i'm finding it hard that a single man with no children and no commitments outside of work can't meet for so long 😬 i really am getting married from him.

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abstractzebra · 19/12/2019 23:27

If you do want to meet him and you know where he lives, arrange to meet him in his local area.
I suspected a couple of OLDs I arranged to meet were married as they obviously only want to meet in a pub miles from civilisation!

MyKingdomForBrie · 19/12/2019 23:30

Definitely avoid avoid avoid!

BumbleBeee69 · 19/12/2019 23:35

Yip.. trust your instincts OP.. Flowers

dramaqueenforlife · 20/12/2019 01:12

Either married or he may have mental health issues. I say that as I have a good friend who has met someone however was reluctant to meet him as she didn’t feel mentally prepared. And wants to take things slow. She doesn’t want to scare him off by letting him know of her issues as he seems genuinely interested.

DramaAlpaca · 20/12/2019 01:15

Another vote for trusting your instincts.

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