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[Peshawar]

would anyone get in a relationship with a man who after divorce left the uk to earn more money in Saudi to help pay child support to ex wife and three children? when he got to Saudi he married again and had three more children. children from second marriage got a lot more (private education for example) than children from first marriage he has only told me about the second marriage and three children from that marriage

Just on the basis of six children across two families, absolutely not! What a headache. What's so special about him that's making you consider it?

no way Hosay, too much baggage.

he has only told me about the second marriage and three children from that marriage

How did you find out about the first marriage then?

katsucurry - I went out with him after his first divorce; I ended it because I knew he was lying about never been married/no children but I didn't bother confronting him about it. almost 30 years later he is back on the scene although we haven't met up, just in touch . I cant stop thinking about him - I think its because I am lonely, I know deep down that we wouldnt be happy but I reckon I am romanticising it and I am remembering the thrill I used to get from him when I was young..I think my renewed infatuation with him is stopping me from being interested in other men, I cant entertain anyone else..why is this do you think?

Barge pole

EvenMoreFuriousVexation - fools who have no privacy settings on their facebook and put all their business on it for all to see (not him but some of his family)

Banalanacake - yes I know

@peshawar "why is this do you think?"

I couldn't even guess. A liar and six other reasons not to. There are so many more men out there... Avoid him. Easier said than done I know.

SoniasTrumpet - barge pole - me or him? I suppose the fact I have asked you that question suggests what I think about myself deep down for even contemplating it!

katscurry, youre right it is easier said than done, but the fact I have asked this question on mums net shows I doubt him and reading objective opinions kind of reinforces what the doubt in my head is telling me

I am an independent woman and have fought so hard to get to this point, im disappointed at myself for being so stupid

Pesh, I wouldn't touch him with a barge pole. Sounds like so much baggage, he'd need his own airport lounge.

Don't beat yourself up, Pesh - you've got this.
And there's no harm in a bit of daydreaming.

SoniasTrumpet, yes youre right... I'll keep that little vision with me for when im feeling weak.. truthfully he was very good in the bedroom but I suspect 30 years later that may have changed...

ArthurEyeTits thankyou, yes, 30 years later I very much doubt he would be up to what he does in my daydreams!

No.. no... if that no did not make sense, no again.

Been in a similar situation, ex went from one marriage to the next giving very little shits about the mess he left behind.

I fell pregnant. He gave zero shits. I miscarried. Again, zero shits. Fuck knows what I saw in the man. But he wanted to marry me. Thank God I didn't, I would have been ex wife number 3.

Sounds like there is a lot you really don't know about. Steer clear.

Pesh, I wouldn't touch him with a barge pole. Sounds like so much baggage, he'd need his own airport lounge.

THIS

Why do you think so little of yourself that you would contemplate being with a man married twice and six kids?

Chuck him off the ped6and put yourself up there instead. You deserve way better than this (probably) personality disordered man.

Every time you want to get in contact with him just go on YouTube and look at some videos by :Inner integration, Matthew Hussey, Derrick Jaxn, Susan Winters, Micael Groves.

Start loving yourself more.
Research why you feel lonely.
Take up hobbies.

Again, start living yourself more.

loving*

OP - doesn’t it sort of depend on your life phase and what you are looking for in a relationship?
For eg - if most of his children were still small - like others said, absolutely no - too complicated.
But it sounds like they must be adults now. And he is single and so are you.

What’s stopping you from meeting him - and possibly checking out those memories/fantasies? Or doesn’t take much time and doesn’t require some sort of commitment.

If you aren’t after looking for a fairly tale - and want a friend/companion - his grown children don’t have to be in the way of that.
Plus you don’t even know if you’d still click and have chemistry.
Why close doors. 🤷🏻‍♀️