I think I have made a mistake in something I have done. And I just need some advice.
I have a Dsis and we are close. She has a lovely family and a nice life and works hard for it.
My DM and DF are divorced. DF lives miles away and we don’t see or speak to him much. DM lives near me has been single for over 20 years and has become quite bitter and difficult as she has got older. She is passive aggressive and has no SOH. She hates confrontation so will never tell anyone what her issue is (she has many) but make comments and is always a victim. She’s like it at work and with us. But she’s also lonely
Dsis and I try to include her in our lives but not always easy to do as Much as DM would like. And not enjoyable!
DM has been disparaging about Dsis in recent months which really bothers me and I always defend Dsis. It’s not fair that Dsis isn’t able to defend herself and no discussion of these minor issues ever actually takes place between them. Dsis and I often vent to each other privately about her and usually laugh it off
The thing I have done is repeat to Dsis something unnecessarily mean DM said about her, and now Dsis is very upset. I really wish I had not said it and I didn’t do it to cause trouble intentionally. But at the same time I told her because I was angry about it. I wish DM did not say these things to me but at the same time she has no idea I would have repeated it.
We have sat down with DM before and had it out all our issues before but this was a horrible experience for all of us and has not really helped
DM’s issue is that she feels neglected by Dsis and that Dsis is responsible for DM having a crap relationship with the grandchildren
I don’t know how to fix this or if I can