Hi so basically I'm looking to get into a committed settled down relationship soon. I'm in my late 20's and done with shitty half assed relationships and I want to move on with my life and find someone who is right for me. I've been getting close to a couple of guys and there's also another couple of guys I like but need to get to know them and hang out with them to see if we will get along in that way or not. The first 2 guys could potentially turn into a relationship really soon but still getting to really know them but really close with both of them. Closer to the first one but getting to that point with the second one. The third and fourth ones I've recently met and talked to a few times. They seem lovely but like I said before havent really spent loads of time with them to get to know them but it's mainly just physical attraction but I think the fourth one has a thing for me. Not really sure about the third one. I'll write a bit about each of them in this post (no personal info lol) so you can get a better idea of what they are like and how they get on with me and so you can help me get a better idea of which one I should go for.
Guy No1
I'm closest to him. Have known him for years. Got really close with him in recent months but started kinda seeing each other (just getting to know each other in that way before we decide if we are right for each other and if we should get together or not). He's really been an amazing support through a shitty relationship I was in this year (long story) but I didn't start to take it further with him until I split with ex. We've been intimate a few times but not all the way. We get along really well and could talk about anything and everything for hours. Time flies when I'm with him. I can be myself around him. We obviously have talked about being together and we find each other attractive. We meet up on average a few times a week and go places. We actually act like a proper couple e.g. hold hands in public. He's very supportive. I find him attractive although not my usual type. The things that make me a bit iffy about him is the timeline he wants to start a relationship at. He's 6 years younger which doesn't bother me as we are both adults but I'm looking to settle down quite quickly whereas he wants to settle in a few years time. I've wasted enough time on exes that didn't work out and I don't want to waste more time. Another thing is he can be quite negative about life in general often. Some of his moods have brought me down a bit. Once we were out somewhere. He picked me up and he was in such a pissy mood he barely talked to me for a good hour and would make remarks on silly stuff passers by would say in conversations to others etc it didn't help I was in a pissy mood that day either but it made it 10 times worse but thankfully we both cheered up but it ruined a nice evening. Another thing is recently I haven't been seeing much of him but still talking and messaging. He has been sick with flu etc but I'm seeing him tomorrow.
Guy No2
He's such a lovely kind hearted genuine religious guy. His kindness literally shines out of him. He's that type of person. I've known him properly for nearly a year but known of him for a good few years and he's known of me for a good few years too (Facebook friends). I met him properly at church randomly one night and I've started going back for a bit of guidance last month and really enjoying it. We've been getting closer. We've been meeting up for coffee etc pretty much doing the same things as with guy No1 but we haven't kissed or did anything along those lines apart from really long hugs. He's a very touchy feely person and I've noticed that the past couple of weeks. He'd randomly play with my hair or tickle me etc. I've felt the chemistry between us even though he's not my usual type I find him attractive and you can end up with someone who may not be your usual type but could be right for you. We can talk for hours and I can be myself around him but I'm usually on a better behaved form. Don't really swear around him for example but I don't swear loads normally. He's religious and he's stated that he wants to wait until marriage before he does the deed which I respect and it's also a good sign he isn't looking for one thing. The things I'm a bit iffy about is the timelines I'm not sure if he would want to settle down on the same timeline as me. If he's the one i'd like us to get married within the next couple of years as I feel ready to settle down now and I don't want to waste time. He's the same age as me so he could end up being on the same page. I would need to get to know him more before we decide to go in that way.
Guy No3
He's definitely my type. I met him quite recently. He's very lovely, chatty and outgoing. He's a few years older than me with his own place which is good. I need to get to know him more. I've asked him if he would like to go for a coffee and he said he would like that but there's been no arrangements for that. I'm hoping there will be as I want to get to know him but sometimes I feel I'm not good enough for him. When we talk we really hold a conversation and he seems to have a flirty smile about him and a twinkle in his eyes.
Guy No4
He's also my usual type. Ive met him a few times. When I'm at church he always finds an excuse to come over to me to hug me and chat away to me. He has a flirty nature about him when he talks to me and I've caught him looking over at me on a few occasions. He's a few years older than me. I want to arrange a coffee date with him to get to know him. The thing is he is divorced with a pre teen child which doesn't really bother me but I've had no experience dating anyone with kids and it'll be a whole new experience but wants meant to be will be and if it's meant to work out with him then it will but I don't want to get hurt if that makes since as some single dada aren't on good terms with their baby momas and there could be a lot of drama and like I said I'm not wasting anymore time.
What do you think. Should I take up an opportunity of a relationship with either guy No1 or 2 if one arises soon or should I wait to get to know guy No3 or 4? Thanks and sorry it's long lol