Rekindling relationship?

[NothingIsWrong]

I've been with my husband for nearly 20 years, married for 8. We have three children age 12,9 and 7.

He's done nothing wrong. Neither have I. No cheating, abuse, financial stress, bad arguments. I just don't feel close to him at all any more. We used to be so similar, and he's stayed the same and I've changed. I want different things now, and I don't know what to do.

Is there a way of coming back together? Or has our relationship run its course? How would you leave someone who loves you but you are so bored and miserable you could just scream? He's great with the kids, pulls his weight round the house.

When you say you want different things, what do you want?

He likes lying on the sofa, playing online games and watching television. I prefer to be outside, long walks, fresh air, days out. We end up doing very little at weekends.

He works long hours and is tired so I know I'm being unreasonable. I work 30 hours a week as well, and deal with the bulk of the house stuff, although he does laundry, cook, clean etc as well.

He is perfectly happy with a quiet life at home, doing very little. I used to think this is what I wanted, but now I want more. It's my fault, he has never changed, it's me that's different.

Have you told him how you feel? Maybe suggest a new hobby or interest you could do together

I don't know how to start the conversation. I end up trying to organise stuff to do, which I end up doing on my own with the children.

He's always saying he doesn't feel well. Headache, or cold, or sore stomach. So I take the kids out and he stays at home playing computer games and watching sport