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End of a relationship... new beginnings

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babby22 · 16/12/2019 19:54

Hi
finally had the courage to end an abusive 8 year relationship. It should have never started but its been dragging on for 5 years than i wanted to and I just need to write down all the things I won't miss to keep me strong.
I won't miss
the suicide threats because he can't live without me
The emotional blackmail of him telling me noone will love me like he does.
the district he showed me every time he cheated on me
the gut feeling in my stomach when i knew he was lying about where he was
All of the lies!
Him blaming me for how much time he has wasted on me.
How he was never good enough for me ( but would never leave me)
the begging for forgiveness
My weak boundaries that enabled him to wear me down time after time.
Him blaming me for not giving him enough attention and that is why he met women off dating sites and had relationships behind my back
his fake emotions
the apologies that never came.
how selfish he was.
how he kept me hooked
The money he borrowed off me 6k for a car he bought to pick up the other women in.
How quickly he moved on to another woman. He can never be on his own.
I won't miss this decade as its been full of him - onto the next one for me :)

OP posts:
Interestedwoman · 16/12/2019 20:15

So sorry you went through all this. Well done for ending it. Best wishes for the future Wine xxxxx

CandyFlossSkies · 16/12/2019 21:47

telling me noone will love me like he does.

The self-centred delusion of that statement is amazing. Like he actually thinks he's so special that no one's love can compete with his, despite his behaviour? Lol. Well done for getting out.

Justtryingtobehelpful · 16/12/2019 23:09

Well done. That was exhausting just to read. New year, better boundaries! 😁🎉

babby22 · 16/12/2019 23:17

Thank you all Smile
It’s been exhausting I am mentally and emotionally drained. I feel a shadow of the person that I was but I have just shed 15 stone of man baby Shock

OP posts:
TheMistressQuickly · 16/12/2019 23:20

Good for you! Have just come out of something similar. Bought a dog and finally have a man in my life showing me love, loyalty and affection.

Here’s to a better decade!!! X

Tryingtobepositive2020 · 17/12/2019 04:18

Wow well done for leaving OP! I left my emotionally abusive ex 2 months ago and I’m starting to really feel back to my old self.

I can promise you it’s the best thing you have ever done.

Onwards and upwards for the new decade Smile

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