Do I snoop?

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I need some advice, my husband has recently started a new job (6 months ago) because it is approaching Christmas he has been out ALOT at work dos and smoozing clients. Sometimes 3 evenings a week, hes been getting in at 4am and has clearly been very drunk and I suspect they have been taking cocaine too. I have kept quiet and accepted that it's this time of year and will be over soon. Anyway, it was his work xmas do the other night and although I am aware partners are invited he was very shady about it all and basically said he didnt want me to go. He was supposed to get a lift home but ended up not coming home and staying at the hotel hosting the party, he then fell through the door at 12.15pm looking like crap!! I was furious and we had a bit of an argument. Our relationship isnt great at the moment and we havent been having sex (not that I havent tried) hes just not interested. I am becoming increasingly paranoid that hes doing things he shouldnt be behind my back. He takes his phone EVERYWHERE with him, even when he goes for a shower and my gut is telling me something is up... if I ask to look at his phone i know he will give me an excuse about him not wanting me to see an xmas present he has bought etc etc so the question is, do i go snooping when he is asleep this evening or am I being paranoid?

Don't ask. Snoop.

If he is drinking it should make it easier.

Good luck.

You’re probably right, affair. Snoop.

If your logged in to his google you can access his internet browsing, you might have some clues on there

What will you do if you find out something that you wish you hadn't learned?

Snoop all the way. Youll never find the whole truth otherwise. Careful that he doesnt get a notification when you log into his accounts like google accounts etc. It all sounds very dodgy...

Snoop away! I don't believe all that bollocks about invading privacy. If a woman has a hunch something is up she is almost always correct. Snooping just cuts out the mystery agony and time waiting to find out.

If you ask, he will lie.

You just need to KNOW. For everyone's sake really, to be honest.

Snoop it's the only way if he won't let you see his phone. Trust your instincts

Another one for snooping. There is no reason to have a hidden app (calculator one) unless you are up to no good. Sending you strength and hugs xxx

If you want the truth look don't ask.

I hate to say this but I'd definitely snoop. If you ask, he'll just say no and then delete everything.

I'd also snoop, if he's up to something he won't admit it if you have no proof, good luck OP

I'd snoop. I know it's frowned upon but with his actions I'd definitely take a look

Definitely snoop, if you don't think he will tell the truth then don't give him the chance to delete things. Good luck xx

As much as I'd hate to too, I'd definitely snoop. He'll only lie if you don't have any proof.

Absolutely snoop when he is asleep , doesn't sound good unfortunately:-(

Hopefully it's just porn. The drug use sounds really worrying :/ could be anything. Hoping you'll be okay x

How did it go?

I would bother snooping....
But maybe that’s because if I thought my OH was taking cocaine and hiding things from me, not wanting me to go to his works Xmas do, being overly secretive with his phone...I’d presume the relationship was over already and I’d pack his bags.

So he has a history of being a liar, has secret apps on his phone, goes out every week and doesn't come home til the next day, takes cocaine, and doesn't have sex with you.

Why bother snooping? None of that sounds like a happy or functional relationship. You can end a relationship for any reason and you have plenty of them.

How did it go OP?

Yes how did it go. Whatcwas the name of the app you found xxx