When did you meet your partner?

[marmite92]

Hello

I've just come out of a long term relationship, and although I'm happier because we weren't right together, I'm starting to worry about actually meeting someone in the future now. I'm 28 which I know is young, but a couple years ago I pictured myself settled down by now and start to think of children.

I want a bit of time to myself to travel and focus on my career, but want to hear positive stories about meeting people in your thirties. If you split up with someone around my age, how old were you when you met your partner and had kids etc?

I met my partner at 30, got married at 35, had first baby at 37, pregnant with 2nd now (39).
Prior to that I was in a 6 year relationship, and when it all ended (badly), I went travelling for 2 years. It was the best thing I ever did and glad I got it out of my system before meeting DH.

Met at 30, married and had baby by 31.

Prior to that I was on my own for 6 years.

Met when in early thirties, married eighteen months later, baby 1 early mid thirties, baby 2 late thirties. It was a busy ten years :-)

I met my husband at 15, in the same year group at the same school and in some of the same classes.

But over the years I could have met plenty of potential partners in a variety of places. Chatting to someone on the train; meeting fellas in a bar; meeting new people at hobbies; of course there’s work, with would have been the least preferable place for me...
But you are young and you will have plenty of time and opportunities to meet new people. Travelling and focusing on your career is such a great idea and you’ll have a fulfilling life from those plans.

Met at 29, married at 31. I had also come out of a relationship at 28. It was a good move.

Met DH at 34. Seven years on we’re married with two kids. Spent 24-34 single barring the odd FWB. He was worth waiting for and I feel incredibly lucky to have found him.

Thanks everyone, these make me hopeful! I really want to enjoy time to myself and as cheesy as it sounds grow as a person on my own a bit, as I felt I really lost my identity with my ex. But I just worry I'll get to my thirties and maybe wish I'd have settled down earlier

I became single at 28 and felt exactly the same as you. I really could have written your post.

At 29 I met a lovely man and was pregnant within the year (totally unplanned)

We have now been together for 10 years have 2 kids, a dog and have just bought our dream home.

I really wish I could go back in time and tell 28 year old me not to worry.

I tried all types of online dating, speed dating etc. You name it I tried it. In the end I met my future husband on a night out!

Go out, have fun and be happy. Be open to trying new things and having adventures. It will happen for you x

Met at 26, married at 29, divorced at 37. Now with someone new I met at 42.

Met at 33 married at 46 having had two children.

Met at 17, married at 19, three children by 25. Just celebrated 32 years together.

Met at 18, now 31 so it’s been a while.
My mil didn’t meet her husband till her 40s and they are the perfect match.
You can’t plan life op.

Thanks everyone 😊 these give me hope!

Met my husband at 28, I had 3 kids so different situation to yours but I felt I was a lost cause and past it. I didn't know the man of my dreams was around the corner and that marriage and another child was in my future. Really was surprised to meet such a good man after the men I'd had in the past and that I was possibly thought of as having "baggage", didn't expect to have such a good outcome.

Met when I was 23 and him 31, had two kids then got married at 29/37

I met my partner at 32 after coming out of an 11 year relationship with 2 kids. We have a lovely blended family now

Met at 19, he died when I was 33.

Met current DP at 37. I already have kids and don't want more but I had plenty of offers from men wanting a baby.

Met on Bumble, it took a year of ten or so poor first dates.

Met at 18, separated 45, met online a few months later a great new man, time will tell but he's keen! It's never too late. My advice is to avoid the free dating apps, they are rubbish - the paid ones work!!!

Met at 32. Married at 34. Babies at 35 and 37.

Met at 32, married at 35, baby on the way now at 37.

Second time around for me. He's 4 years younger and first time for him.