Help to create better boundaries

[Pearlxox]

A male friend who I have known for a long time, who I believe has used me as some sort of ego boost.
He can be nice in the sense that he listens, gives advice etc. And now makes efforts to meet up.
But he's made sexual comments about me on and off. One was texting me at 1am the other week saying he wished he was in bed with me.
He's also said that he 'would' and comments about my body, and about photos of me, and asked me if I would have sex with him 'hypothetically'.
He tries to get reassurance from me that he's desirable to women and talks about how much he misses sex, but I do not have any attraction whatsoever to him.
He always goes on about me being 'reserved' which I do not like and said that the last time he saw me he "couldn't stop looking at my face as it looked so nervous."

I don't appreciate that, but especially not the sexual comments. Ive already told him about this before. Last night, I called him out and he made up some rubbish excuse about being 'misinterpreted' then told me i was 'throwing it in his face.

I was furious with him for daring to turn that onto me and told him so. He apologised, said it was wrong and he needed to work on himself.

I should cut him out, right ? This is not my friend, i'm weak and need to learn stronger boundaries.

Yes, you should! Well done for realising. Now block him 😬.

Yes, going to have to. It's a shame because we talk a lot, but if he makes these sort of comments then he's not a real friend.

He may be nice because he was thinking sex could be on the agenda. He sounds like a creep. I agree, block and forget him.

Yeah maybe. 😳 Then yesterday he told me "you're a friend, nothing more." If he were a true one he wouldn't objectify me.

What a creep!

Well done for seeing it yourself.

Block and move on.

Is there a reason why he thinks it's acceptable to make you uncomfortable and then deny it altogether???

Seems like there's something not quite right with him.

Is he taking the fact that you've replied to his messages as a sign that you're interested? He sounds a bit unhinged to be honest.

Keep being firm or cut him out. Hes not really a friend if he is inappropriate and twisting what's being said.

I think you need to stop communicating with this person asap.

Whether you let him know the reason why before blocking or just do it is something you must judge.

Personally, I would also be on the look for any stalking tendencies after this is done. He sounds very odd. Let's hope he is just odd and nothing more sinister.

Then yesterday he told me "you're a friend, nothing more."

He's probably finally realised you aren't going to sleep with him so is backtracking so if you say he's a creep he can say it was all a joke because he only sees you as a friend.

He was clearly hoping for a different reaction from you.

He's vile, you don't need a friend like that.

He’s just a boundary pushing arsehole who’s trying to wear down your self-esteem 😓.

He clearly thinks you ought to be flattered by his sexual innuendo and appreciate it as some sort of compliment.

Ugh. Tell him to get knotted.

I am glad he apologised and admitted that he needs to work on himself. I have blocked him because I cannot trust that this won't happen again.
Sadly, he may have taken me messaging as a friend as a sign of me being interested, which some men do if a woman talks to them.